He Hasn't Worked Normal Job in Three Years. (wife, how to, married)

[WheredoIlive?]

Just want to say that.

I am going to get a divorce.

Some men never grow up, it isnt just the money. I wish I could go in more detail but its too personal.

I feel like I am being used. He always has his hand out for money. I am hoping I do not end up on the street, have to take care of myself.

[CGSA]

So sorry you are going through this.

[yankeegirl313]

Good luck! Now maybe, he will HAVE to get a job!

[malamute]

Yes, it sounds like it's a situation of enabling. He'll have to grow up if he doesn't have the limitless money source.

[afoigrokerkok]

Just out of curiosity...what do you mean by "normal" job?

[alicejb]

Sorry to hear...best of luck to you

It's time you focus on "you"!

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by CGSA

So sorry you are going through this.

Thanks it is bad.

We moved to another town for job and he lost it, arguing with boss, staying up all night to look for music gigs. Instead of a housewife married to guy making 40,000 a year, {I bring in my own SSD income and did side income stuff like ebay} I am worried about homelessness. We have just gotten poorer and poorer and he used my credit cards like his personal bank.

I realized that it wasnt the bosses fault why he couldnt keep jobs, IT WAS HIS!

Things are sad when someone on disability is the majority earner, I look around this apt and 90% of the stuff in here was bought by me or my family for me.

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by afoigrokerkok

Just out of curiosity...what do you mean by "normal" job?

He goofs around making about 600-or so a month now.

Freelance and other stuff. Some is transcribing and work I got for him to do online. I cant do it since I am hearing impaired but now how to find ways to make money, writing essays online, oh yeah I found that for him too, I do some of that myself.

He hasnt applied for normal job in 2 years, unemployed for three now. Life is going nowhere.

We are barely keep rent paid and on welfare. he has a college degree and was in career where he could have gotten promoted, well if he was normal.

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by malamute

Yes, it sounds like it's a situation of enabling. He'll have to grow up if he doesn't have the limitless money source.

I am too sick and tired and too old to live like a teenager on the edge. He never wants to pay bills on time, cant trust him with it. Comes to me with hand out. He is not providing for me or taking care of me at all. [there is abuse too so I am getting out]

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

Good luck! Now maybe, he will HAVE to get a job!

Even if he was to get a job for 100,000 bucks tommorw, I would still be DONE.

But when I leave he will either get a job, or go live under the highway underpass.

It sucks I am this sick and worried about being homeless. I am looking out for myself do not worry.