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View Poll Results: Can you have a healthy marriage without sex
Male -- No 54 30.51%
Male-- Yes 14 7.91%
Female -- No 76 42.94%
Female -- Yes 33 18.64%
Voters: 177. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 08-29-2016, 06:42 AM
 
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I am sure that most all men will agree. A few women may disagree, but I have no idea why. I wish my wife would realize this.

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Sex is usually a barometer of the general health of the relationship itself. If one partner stops wanting sex, it is because that person is not happy in the relationship, has lost attraction or some other thing that cannot just be fixed by forcing herself to have sex. Why doesn't she want to anymore, do you know? Or has she never been into sex really, and you hoped it would change?

In my 13 year live-in relationship, it was my ex who didn't want to, but he never had a really strong drive, as well as some shame/Catholic school guilt (yes even as an adult). Now non-chemistry in that area is a deal breaker for me, because I do think sex strengthens the bond to get you through rough times, kind of like refueling the relationship.
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Old 08-29-2016, 10:06 AM
 
Location: Phoenix-Valley of the Sun
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Nope. Even in the Bible, which is the most conservative book when it comes to sex, commands the wife and husband to have sex!
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Old 08-29-2016, 10:18 AM
 
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I would have voted "expletive expletive no" but the only option I had was no


this becomes a little less important when you enter the twilight years, but into 40's and 50's there is no reason to not be sexually active
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Old 08-29-2016, 10:21 AM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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No thank you.
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Old 08-29-2016, 10:39 AM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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I'm pretty sure I could. If something happened to either one of us that meant sex was unlikely.
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Old 08-29-2016, 10:46 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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being "touched, held, hugged, kissed" is not the same thing at all as "having sex"

A person can have wonderful nurturing healthy touch, without ever having sex. So a marriage can be healthy without the sex.

The problem is so many people see sex as the ONLY way to receive healthy touch, when in reality, there are lots of other ways, as the above post points out: holding, hugging, touching, cuddling, comforting, all of those
Old thread, old post, but I agree. That would be enough for ME to be happy in a romantic relationship. Kissing and cuddling aren't things that I can do on my own, so I need another person for that. When it comes to having an orgasm, I only rely on myself for that since I've never had one when another person was involved anyway. So until that changes, that isn't something that I can really crave from another person, but maybe someone will surprise me one day.
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Old 08-29-2016, 10:47 AM
 
Location: New Yawk
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Unless both parties are fine with celibacy, no.
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Old 08-29-2016, 12:44 PM
 
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I think only if two people get together who don't like sex. And they are out there. Usually, it's probably a mismatch though. Without that intimacy, you are just roommates. Why marry?
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Old 08-29-2016, 12:52 PM
 
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I'm pretty sure I could. If something happened to either one of us that meant sex was unlikely.
That is different. In the case of disability it is a whole nother thing. I am one who said sex is very important, but if my bf had an accident or cancer and couldn't or felt too sick for sex, I would not even consider leaving because of that, nor do I think that is what OP was talking about.
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Old 08-29-2016, 05:01 PM
 
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When it comes to having an orgasm, I only rely on myself for that since I've never had one when another person was involved anyway. So until that changes, that isn't something that I can really crave from another person, but maybe someone will surprise me one day.

Sorry to hear that. I don't know if you're a woman or man (guessing woman) but either way a relationship partner should be able to help you with that. Sounds like your past relationship partners have been to selfish.
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