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View Poll Results: Can you have a healthy marriage without sex
Male -- No 54 30.51%
Male-- Yes 14 7.91%
Female -- No 76 42.94%
Female -- Yes 33 18.64%
Voters: 177. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 02-14-2009, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I'm still confused as to whether we're talking about MARRIAGE or BF/GF?
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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I won't speak for anyone else but I personally could not have a REAL marriage or a functioning marriage without emotional and physical intimacy.

I guess the classic example to discuss is one where one of the partners is physically unable like paralyzed or something but there are still things they can do to force a different kind of intimacy.

I know my expectations and I would be more then a little mad. Personally I would suspect all kinds of things if my guy didn't want to have sex with me and I would annoy him by beating the subject to death until he came out with it.
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:20 PM
 
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I'm still confused as to whether we're talking about MARRIAGE or BF/GF?
Check the thread title. "Marriage".
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:25 PM
 
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if both people are happy without sex, and it works for them, then more power to them. Marriage is what two people create for themselves and it does not have to look any single way. To say it must have sex is narrow-minded and inflicts views on others that while they may work for you, do not work for others.

I have known many happily married couples who do not have sex, and it works for them. It's not anyone's place to criticize them, because it's their life and nobody else's business.
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:31 PM
 
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I guess when you become old you probably dont really want sex anymore. Not sure if old people care about it as much.

ROFL
They do
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:35 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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It would depend on the circumstance. If it was health related, or just because they didn`t want to put out.
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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if both people are happy without sex, and it works for them, then more power to them. Marriage is what two people create for themselves and it does not have to look any single way. To say it must have sex is narrow-minded and inflicts views on others that while they may work for you, do not work for others.

I have known many happily married couples who do not have sex, and it works for them. It's not anyone's place to criticize them, because it's their life and nobody else's business.
Exactly. It's very personal. While it may not work for many/most, those it works for enjoy it.
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:39 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Check the thread title. "Marriage".
Yes but the poll says "relationship." I'd vote no if the poll said "marriage" but yes with it saying "relationship" (I haven't voted yet).
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Yes but the poll says "relationship." I'd vote no if the poll said "marriage" but yes with it saying "relationship" (I haven't voted yet).
Why would the wording make a difference...?
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Oregon
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When the sex is gone, unless someone is too ill to do it, or too old...(I doubt 90 year olds are getting it on every night}

That means the marriage is over. NO one wants to go through the effort of changing the locks and looking for an apt. [Im thinking of non-abusive situations]They probably are staying togehter for financial or other reasons mostly.
I agree with that. Assuming one or both wants it, without the intimacy that the physical relationship provides, you're just roommates.
Of course as mentioned above if neither is interested, and are happy with just companionship for any reason be it health or whatever, then I guess that would work for them.
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