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View Poll Results: Can you have a healthy marriage without sex
Male -- No 54 30.51%
Male-- Yes 14 7.91%
Female -- No 76 42.94%
Female -- Yes 33 18.64%
Voters: 177. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 02-14-2009, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Why would the wording make a difference...?
Because in my opinion BF/GF is different from husband/wife
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Old 02-14-2009, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Because in my opinion BF/GF is different from husband/wife
It is, but I don't see how it affects the topic at hand in particular...
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Old 02-14-2009, 12:53 PM
 
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I agree with that. Without the intimacy that the physical relationship provides, you're just roommates.

Maybe for you, but not for some people.

Marriage or a long-term loving commitment, is not the same as roommates. It may be for you, but not for many people out there. Emotional support, emotional intimacy, tenderness, caring, encouragement, helping each other out, sharing the ups and downs of life, a shared history, companionship, common goals, the list goes on and on, long term committment to be together.
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Old 02-14-2009, 12:55 PM
 
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Hell no, too many fish in the sea. I think no matter how much you truley love and respect each other, our human instincts take over and overwhelm us with the certain needs and desires that every animal longs for. Yes, there can be emotional stimulation between married couples, but if there is no phyisical stimulation, it will only cause the other to stray. Not because they're pigs, but because they're human. A man does not hire a prostitute because he desires mental stimulation. He hires for maybe 20 minutes for physical stimulation, to keep his sanity, and return to his emotionally happy family life.
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Old 02-14-2009, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Texas
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It is, but I don't see how it affects the topic at hand in particular...
Because it says "relationship" on the poll...to me "relationship" implies BF/GF and NOT husband/wife
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Old 02-14-2009, 12:58 PM
 
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no matter how much you truley love and respect each other, our human instincts take over and overwhelm us with the certain needs and desires that every animal longs for. if there is no phyisical stimulation, it will only cause the other to stray. Not because they're pigs, but because they're human.

just because sex is essential for you
does not mean sex is essential for everyone

so if both people are happy with no sex, then there is no problem
problem only occurs when two people have differing appetites in that area

not all humans are the same so let's not make sweeping generalizations
all we can really know is our own individual experience, and what we gain from listening to others who share
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Oregon
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Maybe for you, but not for some people.

Marriage or a long-term loving commitment, is not the same as roommates. It may be for you, but not for many people out there. Emotional support, emotional intimacy, tenderness, caring, encouragement, helping each other out, sharing the ups and downs of life, a shared history, companionship, common goals, the list goes on and on, long term committment to be together.
I did modify my response after I thought about it. If both are happy this way, then I agree you could. It wouldn't work for me though.
It's the ones where you'd like to be having sex, and aren't either because one or the other doesn't like it, or doesn't want to with their spouse, that I think are simply roommates.
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:10 PM
 
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just because sex is essential for you
does not mean sex is essential for everyone

so if both people are happy with no sex, then there is no problem
problem only occurs when two people have differing appetites in that area

not all humans are the same so let's not make sweeping generalizations
all we can really know is our own individual experience, and what we gain from listening to others who share
No disrespect, but if he's not getting it from you,(assuming you are a female) he is getting it from somewhere else. Unless it's okay with you that he go and relieve himself in your masterbathroom, on the internet then I guess it's ok. There's no way your significant other is not releasing himself somehow, again, no disrespect. Any guys out there with me???
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:13 PM
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The answer to the question is yes.
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:23 PM
 
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No disrespect, but if he's not getting it from you,(assuming you are a female) he is getting it from somewhere else. Unless it's okay with you that he go and relieve himself in your masterbathroom, on the internet then I guess it's ok. There's no way your significant other is not releasing himself somehow, again, no disrespect. Any guys out there with me???

I am asking you simply to expand your thinking from "my way is the only way" to "my way works for me, but i guess other people have ways that work for them"

I am asking you to consider perhaps a response different from "everyone gets it somehwere" to possibly include "wow i guess there are some people who are OK without sex" or "i must have sex, but isn't it interesting that some people are OK without sex"

I am hoping you can see the difference between "my way is the only way because all men must be just like me" and "i learned today not everyone is just like me"
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