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Maybe the attractive, funny women are reserved for the attractive, funny men?
One would think so, but is it really the case...? I think there's a lot of truth in the paragraph below.
"Women see men with a sense of humour as dangerous and sexy, while men see [the reverse] as threatening. Basically, what it comes down to is that humour is a mark of intelligence. Many men don't really want to be the recipient of a cutting remark in public that will make them look small or stupid."
Is that right? I kinda know a female smartas@ is not particularly appreciated , but it's an eye-opener to come across some proof. Granted, the article is on a NZ site. Let's see what our boys have to say!
"When forced to choose between humour production and humour appreciation in potential partners, women valued humour production, whereas men valued receptivity to their own humour," said Dr Martin. More than half the men who took part in the survey revealed that a witty woman was not what they were looking for in a partner. Dr Martin said the findings suggested that men see themselves as the ones who should be delivering the lines and feel threatened by humorous women.
The revelations came as no shock to some of Britain's funniest females. Meera Syal, who co-wrote and starred in the BBC comedy show Goodness Gracious Me, said: "The idea that men are more interested in having an audience rather than sharing banter doesn't really surprise me.
"Women see men with a sense of humour as dangerous and sexy, while men see [the reverse] as threatening. Basically, what it comes down to is that humour is a mark of intelligence. Many men don't really want to be the recipient of a cutting remark in public that will make them look small or stupid."
Yeah, I suppose the stereotyped dumb blondes are not usually funny. They only bring jokes about!
So what if a woman is good-looking and witty?
I think it depends on the guy and his confidence. And the angle of her 'wit'. I'm sure most guys would not like a woman who takes stabs at him in public, especially if that's not a strength for him. I can see it becoming a problem in a relationship.
One would think so, but is it really the case...? I think there's a lot of truth in the paragraph below.
"Women see men with a sense of humour as dangerous and sexy, while men see [the reverse] as threatening. Basically, what it comes down to is that humour is a mark of intelligence. Many men don't really want to be the recipient of a cutting remark in public that will make them look small or stupid."
I do think it is the case - at least among most of the real people who I know.
Still, I don't at all doubt the paragraph you quoted. But I think that would be mostly true for men with low self-esteem (granted that is many, many men).
So perhaps I should have said: Maybe the attractive, funny women are reserved for attractive, funny, self-confident men.
True, a self-centered insecure guy wouldn't want to be overshadowed by a witty lady. They should have psyched out the test group.
In my experience it seems that guys who are smart and funny themselves don't want to be overshadowed and see such women as a thread in long-term relationships - as if it's a competition . More mediocre men don't appear to care and actually enjoy and appreciate witty women as they know they're not as much fun themselves. There's something to be said about balance in the universe, I suppose...
I'm seriously thinking about this. I've never really dated a girl I thought was real funny. Not that her humor quotient was criteria, but it's just been my experience.
Every girl I thought was hilarious was physically unattractive to me.
I'm seriously thinking about this. I've never really dated a girl I thought was real funny. Not that her humor quotient was criteria, but it's just been my experience.
Every girl I thought was hilarious was physically unattractive to me.
It almost makes you wonder if the funny/homely girl is trying harder to be funny to make up for not being "hot".
Once again, I guess the same could be said for funny/homely guys.
It almost makes you wonder if the funny/homely girl is trying harder to be funny to make up for not being "hot".
Once again, I guess the same could be said for funny/homely guys.
That's possible, or they end up being that girl that you consider to be one of the guys before you'd date her.
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, but it's an eye-opener to come across some proof. Granted, the article is on a NZ site. Let's see what our boys have to say!
. More mediocre men don't appear to care and actually enjoy and appreciate witty women as they know they're not as much fun themselves. There's something to be said about balance in the universe, I suppose...
