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Old 02-21-2009, 09:55 PM
 
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Being more than 15 minutes late for no legitimate reason is just rude, imo.
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Old 02-21-2009, 10:08 PM
 
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5 or 10 mins late is not a big deal for me.

Constantly being an hour or two late, says that you don't give a crap about other peoples time.


JMHO
I agree ...being constantly late is VERY indicative of not caring for others...and it's also a desperate plea for attention. Habitual lateness is a choice, there is no excuse for it.
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Old 02-21-2009, 10:20 PM
 
Location: Mayberry
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I am never late unless it was something unavoidable. It irritates the crap out of me if I have to wait for someone who is late, especially if they act like it is no big deal or don't even acknowledge it at all

Oh, like I will call you at 5 and you get the call at 6, well I am already pissed and they can tell. That happens quite often to me with one friend
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Old 02-22-2009, 07:56 AM
 
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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LMAO this just recently happened to me, my son's b-ball coach told me that they changed the practice time to 530p instead of 6...but practice was at 6. I called my hairdresser to make a 830 appt and she said ok i will c u at 9!!!
I'm glad you find it humorous, a joke on you. A sense of humor, especially about ourselves, makes the world a lot friendlier!!
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Old 02-22-2009, 08:01 AM
 
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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imo - its how you are raised. my parents raised me to respect other people, and peoples time is very valuable, so even though i have 5 children, i am not late- 10- 15 minutes early for appointments, prompt for meetings and plans with friends (i was also taught early can be inconsiderate as well in this regard) and 15 minutes after for parties (this time has been different in different places i have lived).
You are so right about being early as well. (Not to hijack the thread... just a thought.) I knew a woman who was constantly an hour or two early for every dinner engagement, and never could understand why people were agitated with her. Seems like that was just as bad as being late. IMHO
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Old 02-22-2009, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Arkansas
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Just wondering....

I have a relative that comes 2-3 hours LATE for every function. Her mother thinks it's funny and the daughter is 45 years old. She will never apologize like some people at least make up an excuse!! No, not her!!

I am sometimes 5-10 minutes late for different things but not 2 hrs.
Somedays I think I will be late for my own funeral loll but I am not that bad.....

Anyone else REALLY habitually late???
My in-laws are ALWAYS late! And not like 5 or 10 minutes, like hours late! Sometimes even days! Seriously. We have been kind enough to invite them down for functions and they will show up either 6 hours late or the next day. This happens all of the time. I have gotten to the point where I no longer invite them to anything. I am also always late, but usually only like 10 or 15 minutes. Plus, I always call if I'm going to be late. The in-laws call like 10 minutes before they were scheduled to be somewhere to say that they are going to be another 6 hours! So annoying!!!
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Old 02-22-2009, 11:48 AM
 
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Habitual lateness is a choice. It's passive-aggressive behavior..."you can make be there but you cant make me be there when you want".

If my children or someone else I loved unconditionally behaved this way with me, I'd try to understand why (without invading his/her "territory"). I wouldnt hope to change the behavior..only to understand it or try to change something about myself that may be contributing to it. If anyone else acted this way, I'd end the relationship/friendship, as the aggravation wouldnt be worth it.
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Old 02-22-2009, 12:49 PM
 
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5 or 10 mins late is not a big deal for me.

Constantly being an hour or two late, says that you don't give a crap about other peoples time.

JMHO
EXACTLY. Short of actually striking someone or calling them a terrible name, being habitually late is about as rude as you can be. For time is the stuff life is made of, and being habitually late is the equivalent of saying, "I don't give a rip about other people's time. I am the center of the universe, and you must plan around me."

It's also a bad, bad idea to be involved with anybody like that. Because either she's saying, 1) "I don't care about you," or 2) "I can't get it together enough in my life to be on time for anything." You might as well be dating a spoiled brat.

I dated a woman who was always 30-45 minutes late to everything, always with some convoluted excuse. After the third time, when we missed the first twenty minutes of a concert that I was dying to see and had somehow managed to score primo tickets, I never called her again. She knew how badly I wanted to go to this concert, and yet she was late anyway.
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Old 02-22-2009, 02:16 PM
 
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I dated a woman who was always 30-45 minutes late to everything, always with some convoluted excuse. After the third time, when we missed the first twenty minutes of a concert that I was dying to see and had somehow managed to score primo tickets, I never called her again. She knew how badly I wanted to go to this concert, and yet she was late anyway.


I guess I'm not as nice as you are, cpg. In my younger years, I might not have done anything about a date's tardiness because of insecurity about how I deserved to be treated. Today, however, if a date were late (especially in a case like your concert), he'd find that I had gone without him. If he were holding the tickets and I couldnt buy any at the gate, then I'd go somewhere else...probably to my poker playing buddies' house with a 24-pack of beer for a fun night of losing money and venting.
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Old 02-22-2009, 02:33 PM
 
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I fixed this problem with my family. When I say we are eating at a certain time......we do. If they are late they get cold food and leftovers. It's funny how they started getting to things on time.
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