Recommended age gap between lovers/couples? (older, mature, interested, relations)

[miu]

Since starting my dating career in my 20's, I never asked the guy's age. It just never seemed important to me. It was more important how he behaved as a human being and adult though. Also how well our minds worked together and if our energy levels matched. I've met some young people that acted much older than they were, and some older people that acted very young.

[miu]

Originally Posted by killer2021

yea major factor. +/- 5 years otherwise you are abnormal. Seeing a 30 year old with a 22 year old is just DISGUSTING. Seriously.

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In addition, after reading this other post of yours, I would say that a 22 year old woman would prefer to be with a 30 year old man because he doesn't have sex on the brain like you do and he respects her wishes. That 30 year old man is treating her like a gentleman while you are throwing tantrums when your dates aren't putting out. And I can't wait until YOU turn 30.

You're such a misogynist!!!

Originally Posted by killer2021

You are talking to women who are on control freaks. AVOID. Your main mission is to find women who will have sex with you. If women are lecturing you on any of the above they AREN'T going to have sex with you! Don't waste your time. Move on and find the right girl.

Can't stress this enough, you guys need to learn to:

1) move on when she starts demanding pointless stuff or to buy this or that
2) Learn to talk to women
3) Realize that women come and go. If one girl won't have sex with you, move on. Another one will!

[GLS]

Originally Posted by mrstewart

My grandparents had a 12 year age span and were married 40 years...it can be done. I will tell you, the older you get the smaller the gap becomes!

I tend to agree with you from a perceptual, attitudinal, and companionship aspect. Personally, I think if the couple can withstand the societal pressures that come with "age-gap" prejudice, then more power to them. However, I would add one caution from a morbidity/mortality perspective. A 10 to 15 year age gap may make a significant difference in physical deterioration, putting pressure on the younger partner, regardless of gender. The 50 year old partner is at risk of becoming a medical caretaker for the 65 year old spouse. Statistically this increases as you age further.

One important gender-related point: Women's life spans continue to exceed men's by approximately 5 to 7 years. Therefore, in terms of death planning, if a woman is the younger partner, a 15 year age-gap becomes
a 20 to 22 year gap. To reiterate, I am not against age-gap romances. You may have found the best partner you'll ever find on this earth. However, significant age-gap differences warrant special planning as you get older.

[Cameron Cayman]

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

My husband is 17 years older - and the age gap does matter. I won't go into it, but if I had it to do all over again, I would choose to remain single.

I hope your husband doesn't see this post

[Cameron Cayman]

Personally, I would "go for" a difference of 5 years younger or older. As for me and my wife now, we are basically the same age, she is about 6 weeks older.

[malamute]

I think it's a primary factor for most people.

There are many people who will not date out of their age range, and there are those who will not date within it. It can vary by age and income. Some people date within their age range when younger and then decide they no longer fit within it and will look for only younger.

No matter how attractive a man or woman is, they will not be date prospects for most people because of age -- one way or the other. It works all ways, some men of age 50 would never look twice at a beautiful 18 year old, some won't look twice at a beautiful 55 year old.

[GLS]

Originally Posted by malamute

...... would never look twice at a beautiful 18 year old, some won't look twice at a beautiful 55 year old.

I am still dumb enough to look once at a beautiful 18 year old, and smart enough to look twice at a beautiful 55 year old.

[miu]

Originally Posted by malamute

No matter how attractive a man or woman is, they will not be date prospects for most people because of age -- one way or the other. It works all ways, some men of age 50 would never look twice at a beautiful 18 year old, some won't look twice at a beautiful 55 year old.

I feel very sorry for those who can't get past how a person initially looks to them when picking someone to date. What's underneath is what really counts.

I think that sometimes, some women put too much makeup on. In young girls, it's a shame because all that makeup covers up their natural youthful beauty. Too much makeup also cheapens the way the come across to others. With older women, too much makeup, what clothing they wear or certain hair styles make them look older than they need to imo.

[Perlagirl25]

I think within 5 years lower or higher is ideal for a girl. Some guys in thier 40s hit on me and I find them too old for me. I'm in my early 30s. Older men are unattractive and too set in their ways. I just dated a guy who was 5 years younger than me and he treated me so well. We broke up because he had a job transfer and I didn't want to leave the area.

Women who date much much older men seem to be looking for money or a father figure. It just simply isn't natural. The divorce rate is very high nationally and growing. This means something isn't being done right.

My dad is 10 years older than my mom and she has always told me to never do that. At first you may not notice the age difference but the older person is going to slow down metabolically before you do. This means that the older man presumably is not going to have the same energy levels as you.

I also find that the men who are 40 and not married are actually just the long term players who never want to settle. Just because they are old doesn't mean they won't play you.

I think I'll stick to dating men in their 30s.

[piperspal]

My husband was sixteen years older than me & I never once felt the age difference. Other factors had some impact on our marriage,
but the age gap was never an issue.

I have dated a guy 13 years younger & another guy 8 years younger. I am still very close friends with the 8 yrs. younger
guy (& his wife & kids are my close friends also). The guy 13 years my junior was just too immature for me. But I truly think that was
his personality & character...he'll still be immature @ 50, I bet.

As long as it's legal, age for me is a complete non-issue. Too many other factors in dating someone to let age play a role.
As always, IMO