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View Poll Results: Is age difference a factor in choosing a mate?
Yes primary factor 5 14.29%
Yes secondary factor 13 37.14%
Yes tertiary factor 5 14.29%
Irrelevant 12 34.29%
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Old 02-20-2009, 09:47 PM
 
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Unhappy Recommended age gap between lovers/couples?

I know it depends strongly on the individuals. 10 years into marriage "historically" is always the pivot point in most marriages.

Some marriages don't even last for 10 years-poor compatibility obviously.
Others cross the 10 years mark then trouble and few cross blissfully.

I am presently talking to a girl but we aren't BF/GF material. After 3 months I discovered she is 11 years younger than me. Of all the girls introduced to me; she is the one I have a profound interest in -oh boy was I shocked upon discovery (WRT her age).

I may be of old school where "we" believe in an approximate 7 years difference between the older man and the younger woman.
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Old 02-20-2009, 09:50 PM
 
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My grandparents had a 12 year age span and were married 40 years...it can be done. I will tell you, the older you get the smaller the gap becomes!
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Old 02-20-2009, 09:56 PM
 
Location: Riverside
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My pop was 10 yrs older than my mom...My oldest sisters husband is 15 yrs older than her...middle sister and her husband are the appx same age...I'm older than my husband....but he has more gray hair That must be why he shaved his head...
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Old 02-20-2009, 09:57 PM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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Whatever works for other people, but for me, I'd go five years younger or ten years older. Actually, the older I get, the less I want someone ten years older!
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Old 02-20-2009, 10:27 PM
 
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whatever works for other people, but for me, i'd go five years younger or ten years older. Actually, the older i get, the less i want someone ten years older!
rflmao
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Old 02-20-2009, 11:37 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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My husband is 17 years older - and the age gap does matter. I won't go into it, but if I had it to do all over again, I would choose to remain single.
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Old 02-20-2009, 11:45 PM
 
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My parents are 12 years apart, and it never seemed weird at all. I think the person's maturity level has a lot to do with it. But while I don't think age is an important factor, I don't want to see it taken to extremes, like a senior citizen with an 18 yr old.
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Old 02-20-2009, 11:56 PM
 
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yea major factor. +/- 5 years otherwise you are abnormal. Seeing a 30 year old with a 22 year old is just DISGUSTING. Seriously.

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Old 02-21-2009, 12:09 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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[quote=killer2021;7559438]yea major factor. +/- 5 years otherwise you are abnormal. Seeing a 30 year old with a 22 year old is just DISGUSTING. Seriously.





Dude you've got issues 30 and 22 isn't that bad, not as bad some other combo's.

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Old 02-21-2009, 03:02 AM
 
Location: Mississippi
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My mother is 12 years older than my father. Been married about 28 years I think and doing just fine. It's better this way; women live longer than men in general, thus they should rob the cradle so they'll have their guy around for a little longer than nature generally allows I'm only a couple years older than my beau, no biggie there.
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