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02-23-2009, 11:19 PM
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
Cheating on your partner happens when there is something you would do with, or say to, another that you would not do or say if your partner were there with you.
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well i guess my boyfriend has cheated on me then.
that type of 'cheating' i think is forgiveable though! it's when you have feelings for someone else and are hooking up with them, that's definitely when you need to call it quits. |
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02-23-2009, 11:26 PM
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Lucky and blessed :)
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Originally Posted by leslie_downs
well i guess my boyfriend has cheated on me then.
that type of 'cheating' i think is forgiveable though! it's when you have feelings for someone else and are hooking up with them, that's definitely when you need to call it quits.
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Whether something is forgiveable or not is up to the person who was wronged. But I do agree forgiveness is always possible in situations like yours.
People don't have to have feelings for someone else to cheat on their partners though  |
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02-24-2009, 01:40 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by leslie_downs
well i guess my boyfriend has cheated on me then.
that type of 'cheating' i think is forgiveable though! it's when you have feelings for someone else and are hooking up with them, that's definitely when you need to call it quits.
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It's simply when you have feelings for someone else, period- that is when the cheating happens. Hooking up with them is not necessary for this to be cheating |
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02-24-2009, 01:56 PM
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Lucky and blessed :)
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Originally Posted by jm31828
It's simply when you have feelings for someone else, period- that is when the cheating happens. Hooking up with them is not necessary for this to be cheating
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But cheating also happens with NO feelings involved (other than lust). These are the situations where the guy will try to tell his lady, "but it was just sex, it didn't MEAN anything"  |
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02-24-2009, 02:04 PM
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Just born to be silly!!
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If it involves another person and you can’t do or say everything in front of your SO have to hide the relationship, then it is cheating. Whether it is with actions or just feelings; if your not cheating then you shouldn't have to hide your relationship.
A relationship involves the heart and body!!
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02-24-2009, 02:19 PM
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Doesn't matter what the activity is -- email, an intimate lunch, kissing, hand-holding, sex. If you're being surreptitious about it, then it's cheating. If you can't be completely unfront and honest with your spouse/SO about it, then it's cheating. If you are concealing it, then it's cheating. If you have to sneak it to keep it a secret from your spouse/SO, then it's cheating. If you worry about your spouse/SO discovering what you did, then it's cheating.
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02-24-2009, 02:24 PM
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Lucky and blessed :)
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Originally Posted by Niftybergin
Doesn't matter what the activity is -- email, an intimate lunch, kissing, hand-holding, sex. If you're being surreptitious about it, then it's cheating. If you can't be completely unfront and honest with your spouse/SO about it, then it's cheating. If you are concealing it, then it's cheating. If you have to sneak it to keep it a secret from your spouse/SO, then it's cheating. If you worry about your spouse/SO discovering what you did, then it's cheating.
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Yep, that about sums it up  |
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02-24-2009, 02:26 PM
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Cheating is more then a body thing it is a mind thing. If you have feeling involved it is a form of cheating and will most likely go to the next stage anyways.
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02-24-2009, 03:23 PM
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Now an Arkie!
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I think kissing and definitely sex are cheating if the couple doesn't have an open relationship.
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02-24-2009, 05:00 PM
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It's the most WONDERFUL time of the year!!! : )
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Kissing and Sex - cheating
Hand-holding - probably cheating, but there could be certain circumstances I guess, not that I ever encountered any 
Sitting on a lap - depends on the situation, at a party, sitting on a friends lap, husband is there too, no, then not cheating
Going out with the opposite sex one-on-one - not cheating
Just looking at somebody else - not cheating |
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