What do you consider cheating? (married, man, dance, kids)

[clownphish]

Originally Posted by mhladik12

I think lying and cheating go hand in hand... If my boyfriend was communicating with another woman and not telling me about it I would consider that a real problem and probably a relationship ender. I am not a jealous person but I believe openness and honesty are the base of any relationship and if there is a reason he feels like he can't tell me about someone then there must something shady going on.

Agreed 100%

[Future Trooper]

Originally Posted by heatwave13

For us it would be any physical sort of affection including kissing, touching (you know what I mean) and up to sex.

But, really, even communicating with another, i.e. email, texting, calling in secret, etc......we consider to be a form of cheating.

"Just say no"

I agree with you 100%

[mhladik12]

Originally Posted by Colddiamond102

So if they tell their SO about the person, its better?

I should have explained better... A lot of times when someone is busted for possible cheating they tend to say "we are just friends!"... I think if someone has a "friend" that they are spending considerable time with and don't tell their SO about it there must be something they are hiding... sometimes cheating... so even though they may or may not have physically cheated, the fact that there was dishonesty and the guilty feeling means it's more than friendship and that is close enough to cheating for me.

[Chinolala]

I would have no problem with my husband going out for coffee or something with someone of the opposite sex under these circumstances:
1) It's someone from work and they ran out to get coffee
2) He has a female platonic friend that I know about and have met and that I have socialized with when he's been present.

If he was going out with a woman that I had not met or had no idea about and I stumbled upon this fact, I would be suspicious. He may not have technically cheated (physical contact), but the fact that he never told me about her would be a red flag.

My thoughts on this is if you find someone of the opposite sex attractive, don't put yourself in a position where trouble may occur. If you find someone really appealing and they ask you to go out for drinks after work, don't go. Don't tempt yourself. We're all human and we may all have the best intentions. But the combination of drinks and attractiveness are a bad mix. Better to decline the offer and go home.

[nomoremrnice]

Cheating is only cheating when you are caught

[nomoremrnice]

Originally Posted by Chinolala

I would have no problem with my husband going out for coffee or something with someone of the opposite sex under these circumstances:
1) It's someone from work and they ran out to get coffee
2) He has a female platonic friend that I know about and have met and that I have socialized with when he's been present.

If he was going out with a woman that I had not met or had no idea about and I stumbled upon this fact, I would be suspicious. He may not have technically cheated (physical contact), but the fact that he never told me about her would be a red flag.

My thoughts on this is if you find someone of the opposite sex attractive, don't put yourself in a position where trouble may occur. If you find someone really appealing and they ask you to go out for drinks after work, don't go. Don't tempt yourself. We're all human and we may all have the best intentions. But the combination of drinks and attractiveness are a bad mix. Better to decline the offer and go home.

Don't kid yourself. Do you women really think your men abide by these rules? I would guess 7 of your husbands have or are cheating on you at this very moment.

[Aylalou]

I guess one of them would be you.

[Aptor hours]

Lying to the spouse about who we are with.

[Colddiamond102]

Originally Posted by nomoremrnice

Cheating is only cheating when you are caught

Methinks you'd have a date with my dull, rusty garden shears if you belonged to me.

In fact, if that's your real opinion, Id say you've probably got a date with some other woman's rusty garden shears...or skillet...or rolling pin...

[Sunflower_lol]

According to my definition is: Anything physical done face to face (not on computer nor online) that ranges from kissing to actually having full blown sex with someone else (can be opposite or same sex member).