What do you consider cheating? (emotionally, relations, date, sex)

[TexasBlonde]

Originally Posted by Colddiamond102

So if they tell their SO about the person, its better?

Slightly.

[max's mama]

When you start developing feelings towards someone, it's already an emotional cheating. This type of cheating is a lot more common and a lot easier to hide. I suggest to keep that type of cheating to yourself. Nip those feelings in the bud, stop talking to this person and end it. Your partner doesn't need to know, it will not make it better.

Of course anything physical, like holding hands, touching, kissing is cheating, but that goes without saying.

[Sunnnee]

Originally Posted by heatwave13

For us it would be any physical sort of affection including kissing, touching (you know what I mean) and up to sex.

But, really, even communicating with another, i.e. email, texting, calling in secret, etc......we consider to be a form of cheating.

"Just say no"

I agree, any form of this would be considered screwing around. What's in the dark will eventually come to the light.

[Chowhound]

She best not mention another mans name or is friggin "GO TIME".

[8palmtrees]

Good poll but I did not vote cause some of these have to be more elaborated, like for instance:
Kissing - now in some cultures kissing on the cheek is normal
Hand-holding now if I was severely ill or very drunk I would need help to get around I hope that someone would hold me or my hand so that I would not fall.
Sitting on a lap. I have a dear friend from India who told me that sometimes you have to sit on people's lap in a crowded car or rikshas or cabs
Going out with the opposite sex one-on-one my best friend's mother was dying of cancer sometime back and her father went out with her mom's best friend to lunch to discuss how he is going to arange to take care of his kids what he needs to do etc...it was NOTHING but friendship.
Just looking at somebody else is creeping are you saying gawking if so that is WRONG or just a glance, a man simply seeing an attractive woman or woman seeing an attractive man while married. If that is the case that is simply human nature. I took pyschology classes in college and they say accually it is very unhealthy when your partner tells you that they NEVER EVER look at anyone but you....we all are human and a quick glance is bound to happen.

[seeniorita]

I consider cheating"

1. the acutal physical act of putting your d*ick in her OR
2. emotional connection in to which it leads to number 1

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Niftybergin

Doesn't matter what the activity is -- email, an intimate lunch, kissing, hand-holding, sex. If you're being surreptitious about it, then it's cheating. If you can't be completely unfront and honest with your spouse/SO about it, then it's cheating. If you are concealing it, then it's cheating. If you have to sneak it to keep it a secret from your spouse/SO, then it's cheating. If you worry about your spouse/SO discovering what you did, then it's cheating.

^ I agree.

[Weezyfb]

sex. kissing can be forgiven

[max's mama]

Originally Posted by Weezyfb

sex. kissing can be forgiven

Anything can be forgiven, but it doesn't mean that it's not cheating.

[Coolhand68]

What constitutes cheating is between each couple. Whatever you wouldn't want your partner to do, is the same thing that you should not be doing. I've seen some couples whose spouses have friends of the opposite sex, sit on someone's lap of the opposite sex, and dance with a member of the opposite sex...some people felt all the above was cheating, some didn't. Some feel that flirting is cheating. Each couple defines their boundaries.

I think most people can agree upon some universal definitions of cheating. Sex, kissing, and professing your love or infatuation to someone. Some of these things carry a lot more weight than others. Again, it all depends on the couple.