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Old 02-25-2009, 08:21 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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Default Was he for REAL????

Last night I went to karaoke and I met this really cute guy (there goes the last resolution). We were talking and he said to me "You mean I have a shot?" and I told him well yeah I'm sitting here, aren't I? Then he says oh wow I didn't think I was gonna get any tonight. I immediately corrected him and told him that I was telling him he had a shot to date me. If he wanted anything more, he had to wait until I knew him better.
He said he was okay with that, so I said," Besides, a male friend told me that guys appreciate it more when they have to work for it." He looked at me and said, "Your friend is absolutely right." And then proceeded to try to change my mind about sleeping with that night! When I reminded him that he agreed he'd appreciate it more if he had to work for it, he said, "I shot myself in the foot, huh?"

Outside of the fact I wouldn't have done it anyway (I just met him), I think it's funny that even if I were so inclined, he think he would have gotten it after making that comment. lol

I think we had a similar thread, but comments anyway?
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Old 02-25-2009, 08:58 PM
 
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I think the conversation went that way because it has worked in the past and will work in the future with some other woman.

Based on this interaction alone, it sounds like he is simply not interested in dating.
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Old 02-25-2009, 09:01 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I think the conversation went that way because it has worked in the past and will work in the future with some other woman.

Based on this interaction alone, it sounds like he is simply not interested in dating.
I agree. I really wouldn't bother him to wait for you, when he may very well be getting it elsewhere.
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Old 02-25-2009, 09:05 PM
 
Location: Riverside
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Ever see a dog trying to get something he wants? And besides...women have been known to change their minds. Whats the worst that can happen? You'll say no again and again? In some cases persistence pays off.
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Old 02-25-2009, 09:49 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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Ever see a dog trying to get something he wants? And besides...women have been known to change their minds. Whats the worst that can happen? You'll say no again and again? In some cases persistence pays off.
True. It's the old "if you don't ask, you don't get" thing...

So are you going to go out with him? Did you exchange contact info?
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Old 02-25-2009, 09:52 PM
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I think the conversation went that way because it has worked in the past and will work in the future with some other woman.

Based on this interaction alone, it sounds like he is simply not interested in dating.
^^ I also agree with this post. But if you liked him and think he has potential, see if he'll do a couple of lunch dates. Avoid evening activities with him in the beginning.
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Old 02-25-2009, 09:56 PM
 
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but comments anyway?
I think he's an @ssh@le and I'd have left him in my dust.
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Old 02-25-2009, 10:05 PM
 
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Last night I went to karaoke and I met this really cute guy (there goes the last resolution). We were talking and he said to me "You mean I have a shot?" and I told him well yeah I'm sitting here, aren't I? Then he says oh wow I didn't think I was gonna get any tonight. I immediately corrected him and told him that I was telling him he had a shot to date me. If he wanted anything more, he had to wait until I knew him better.
He said he was okay with that, so I said," Besides, a male friend told me that guys appreciate it more when they have to work for it." He looked at me and said, "Your friend is absolutely right." And then proceeded to try to change my mind about sleeping with that night! When I reminded him that he agreed he'd appreciate it more if he had to work for it, he said, "I shot myself in the foot, huh?"

Outside of the fact I wouldn't have done it anyway (I just met him), I think it's funny that even if I were so inclined, he think he would have gotten it after making that comment. lol

I think we had a similar thread, but comments anyway?
As Bugs Bunny said once, "What a maroon." Not you, of course. Him.
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Old 02-26-2009, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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I gave him my phone number. And he knows I go to karaoke every Tuesday. He said he'd show up, so we'll see. But the cookie is staying in the jar. He wants it too much to get it anytime soon.
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Old 02-26-2009, 10:47 AM
 
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Keep him swinging in the breeze until he marries you...that will show his intentions are honorable.
Anything less is a lack of respect for you....but you have to respect yourself first.

Same applies for living together....win-win for the man, lose-lose for the woman.

I'm a 47 yr old guy..with lots of experience. Just being straight with you.
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