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Old 02-28-2009, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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hahaha

Children are NEVER ok even if they are not hungry,etc they want attention CONSTANTLY. They cant just sit in front of the TV or do something to occupy themselves they have to CONSTANTLY be attached to you and climb all over you. They don't even let you sleep.

Dear god the thought of even being around a child makes me sick.
I know I had my whiny moments as a kid but my parents agree I was a well behaved kid and I was easy to raise.
My half sis on the other hand...my goodness. She's a little hell raiser when she wants to be. I love her to pieces though. There is a 13 year age gap...I'm 18 and she's 5.

Working at Wal-Mart I see a lot of kiddy meltdowns which reaffirms over and over my resolve to be child free.
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Old 02-28-2009, 12:18 PM
 
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Haven't you heard? This forum is NOW about people who don't respect children and their parents and talk about porn!!!!
What exactly are you saying? I pointed out that the thread was in the wrong forum. Why are you attacking me? I didn't say anything disrespectful to anyone (whether they are a parent or not).
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Old 02-28-2009, 01:00 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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What exactly are you saying? I pointed out that the thread was in the wrong forum. Why are you attacking me? I didn't say anything disrespectful to anyone (whether they are a parent or not).

I think she was just frustrated at the abundance of that type of threads on the parenting forum. It didn't sound to me she was attacking you. We finally got the thread moved out of there.
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Old 02-28-2009, 05:16 PM
 
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hahaha

Children are NEVER ok even if they are not hungry,etc they want attention CONSTANTLY. They cant just sit in front of the TV or do something to occupy themselves they have to CONSTANTLY be attached to you and climb all over you. They don't even let you sleep.

Dear god the thought of even being around a child makes me sick.
Two points - This is the exact thread that was first posted on the education forum. I moved it here at the OP's request.

Second point regarding the above post. As a parent, I've found that I've enjoyed (yes, at times hated) every singe stage of my kids lives but in the end I feel that being a mother has brought out the very best of me.

There is nothing to compare to holding a sleeping infant, watching your kindergartner go off to school for the first time, seeing your teenager go on their first date, going off to college, first day of a new job..... That very, very short time when they cry alot and you don't get to sleep goes by in a flash and is remembered not a lot.
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Old 02-28-2009, 05:29 PM
 
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I keep thinking that I really don't think I want children at all. Especially now that most people seem to be struggling, education costs are out of control, housing is ridiculous, and many other things are going on in this world. Why would I want to bring a child into this mess unless I was completely stable in all aspects of my life? So many people just have them to have them.

I know quite a few couples that never want to have kids and they are happy as well. I enjoy being around children and have been teaching for a few years, but it's nice to get out and have the rest of the night to myself and my husband and be spontaneous when we want to do something or go somewhere.

So who else has been contemplating not having children??
I do not want children and never did. People always tried to make me out to be a wierdo but I dont care. Any man I have ever dated I have let them know right in the beginning that I didnt want them. Some tried to change my mind they are long gone. I thank God everyday that I do not have children. If I had one I would want to give the child a better childhood than I had and I had a good one. I cant provide the things that my parents and family provided for me. I cant afford a house, sometimes I dont know how I am going to pay my bills. I am fine with my decsion and its nice to only have to worry about me and my hubby. Some people says its selfish I say it would be worst me having a child and not being able to give it the best.
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Old 02-28-2009, 05:33 PM
 
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Me too. I'm in the same boat. Everyone says oh yeah I always said that too but then when you get in your thirties you will change your mind. I don't know if I'm gonna change my mind. I'm thirty now and if I have them I should by the time I'm 35 because I wouldn't want to be any older then that having kids. But I don't feel like I will be ready in the next five years. I don't have anything worked out. Like a house, an area I like living in and now a steady job. I might be losing my teaching job this year due to the cut backs. Plus aside from that I don't have any desire what so ever to have kids at this point even if I had all the other things. My husband says he wants kids but he's not ready either. I don't know if things will change for me. It would be interesting to hear others’ stories and what was there changing point making them decide kids were what they wanted.
They told me that too. I am 33 and I am even more firm!
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Old 02-28-2009, 05:52 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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Two points - This is the exact thread that was first posted on the education forum. I moved it here at the OP's request.
No actually it is a mixture of both threads. I wrote post #20 in the Parenting forum and post #33 in the Education forum. It must be quite confusing to people who read the thread now.
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Old 03-01-2009, 12:02 AM
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I guess I'm selfish. I really, really love things to be quiet, and with kids in the house that is an extremely rare phenomenon. I want to do my own thing and not have to constantly answer twelve billion questions about every single thing, not have to calm kids down for freaking out over minor stuff, not having to guess at what the problem is when they're screaming/screeching (the worst)/crying. I wouldn't mind any of this for a short while, but I know I couldn't do it every day for years on end. I'm glad I know what I want and how much I can take, because I'd never want to take my selfishness out on somebody else.

I would be a good mom in that I am very caring and sensitive and understanding, but I have a short fuse when it comes to noise and all I listed above. I don't want to be an angry mom, always telling my kids to shut up, leave me alone. So I won't do it.

P.S. I wouldn't want to be the one in the restaurant or store with the screaming kids, either.
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Old 03-01-2009, 08:46 AM
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Location: MA/NH
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My boyfriend is another person that likes the house to be really quiet. He's not happy when my pets start to fuss at me to make them dinner or to indicate their need to go outside. He's also a very impatient person and I think that a good parent has to be both patient and tolerant. Fortunately he doesn't ever want kids, and I feel very certain that he's never going to change his mind. And that's also good for me as I don't want kids either.

There are actually a lot of people out there that shouldn't be parents... some have them, some don't. And one one should ever tell another person that they ought to have kids, that everything will work out fine... because it doesn't. And women shouldn't push their s/o's to have a family if he doesn't want to, unless those same women are willing to shoulder a lot of the financial responsibility. I'm tired of seeing tired overworked men trying to keep up with their family's bills, ones caused by the children that their wives wanted to have.
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Old 03-01-2009, 08:46 AM
 
Location: The #1 sunshine state, Arizona.
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I guess I'm selfish. I really, really love things to be quiet, and with kids in the house that is an extremely rare phenomenon. I want to do my own thing and not have to constantly answer twelve billion questions about every single thing, not have to calm kids down for freaking out over minor stuff, not having to guess at what the problem is when they're screaming/screeching (the worst)/crying. I wouldn't mind any of this for a short while, but I know I couldn't do it every day for years on end. I'm glad I know what I want and how much I can take, because I'd never want to take my selfishness out on somebody else.

I would be a good mom in that I am very caring and sensitive and understanding, but I have a short fuse when it comes to noise and all I listed above. I don't want to be an angry mom, always telling my kids to shut up, leave me alone. So I won't do it.

P.S. I wouldn't want to be the one in the restaurant or store with the screaming kids, either.
The older you become the shorter the fuse.
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