Girlfriend cannot leave her husband (lover, looking, relation, crying)

[afoigrokerkok]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

What is your take on that? Not judging, just wonder why you really believe that?

Because adultery is wrong. It's never right. If they're that bad that you would say "they deserve to be cheated on," then you shouldn't want to be married to them at all. If you want to stay in the marriage but also want to cheat, you have some serious issues.

People who have trouble in their marriages can try to work it out themselves, get help like marriage counseling, etc. or they can get a divorce. It's not appropriate to be like "oooo I'll cheat on you" like an immature teenager would. If you're over the age of about 21, you should have grown up beyond that.

[artsyguy]

Are you a licensed professional in the subject matter?

Originally Posted by afoigrokerkok

Because adultery is wrong. It's never right. If they're that bad that you would say "they deserve to be cheated on," then you shouldn't want to be married to them at all. If you want to stay in the marriage but also want to cheat, you have some serious issues.

People who have trouble in their marriages can try to work it out themselves, get help like marriage counseling, etc. or they can get a divorce. It's not appropriate to be like "oooo I'll cheat on you" like an immature teenager would. If you're over the age of about 21, you should have grown up beyond that.

[Boneheaded]

I don't think my wife deserved it. If you read all my posts I say that the whole situation opened my eyes. The relationship with the other woman is toxic. I would never suggest this to anyone. The other thing I never took advantage of the other woman she is married also. We both are adults and made a choice.

[sueprnova]

As long as I do not hear...it just happened....
I think, yeah, I am pretty sure I have typed this before...
We, humans, have the ability to reason...we are not like animals who do not have that ability.
Say it's an escape...say it's a diversion...give it a name....be honest...say that you needed attention...your ego needed stroking....take responsibility for your actions.., and the consequences that come from your lack of control.
However, don't ever say that an affair is an OK thing to do....no matter what your circumstances.

[Twinkle Toes]

Wow! I just got back home and I cannot believe this thread is still going strong!

[sueprnova]

without a peep from the OP...shocked?

[Twinkle Toes]

Originally Posted by sueprnova

without a peep from the OP...shocked?

I am just OUTRAGED that the OP put all of us through this and just abandoned us like we were nobodys! I think he's cheating on us!!!

[Boneheaded]

Hahaha He is probably getting a kick out of the gun being pointed at me instead of him.

[carlitasway]

Originally Posted by BigBlueJints

Hello, Please read this through before you make an opinion. I am desperate, sad, and depressed. I have been seeing a girl 200 miles away for 4 years. She is a wonderful woman not a cheat as some of you will say. She wants to leave her husband and us spend our lives together. She cannot leave her husband because of money and kids aged 9 and 12. I work here in CT and she works in NY State. Her children come first. Her husband is possesive and controlling. Threatens her with the children if she leaves. It is very hard to get a divorce In New York State. I hang on and hang on, but see no hope in site unless I am ready to wait a few more years. I am not young at 48. I love this woman so much. I feel so much pain and love in one. I get hurt easily and read into her words and thought to much at times. It is hard when two people say they are soul mates and one lives with someone else. To begin with I don't ant to leave as I would hurt her. I know I do not have her now, but the thoguht of ending all hope just destroys me inside and make me unfunctional. Thing is I am depressed more than happy. If I was giving advice I would say move on in more words. It is easier to give advice than follow it. PLEASE someone help I am tired of being sad and crying.
Thank You

Hmn...if I had a boyfriend right now and didn't want to leave my husband, I'd probably give him the same story your girlfriend gives you. Thank goodness I don't have the energy for that kind of drama.

[Crustedfilth]

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

Please - clue us in. A lot of us have never been on the Michigan threads.

don't bother its nothing but negativity.