Need Suggestions (wife, married, guy, kids)

[NeedFriend]

I have been seeing this guy for more than a year now and we have met only twice. First time he invited me and next time he offered to come. He talk to me daily and chats on yahoo with me a lot. We were intimate those two times we met. First time when I came back, when I talked to him about relationship he said we never talked about it. This time also he didnot talk about it. Whenever I try to bring this topic he avoids that. I am so confused now. I dont know what to do. One time I told him I may get married soon as I dont want to continue like that, he said he doesnot want to loose me and he planned to come but he didnot talk about relationship or commitment. What shall I make out from it.

[killer2021]

Seeing more than a year......met twice...hmm

Sounds to me like he doesn't want anything serious, just fun.

Also sounds like you are rushing into things. You met him twice and already talking of marriage? You barely even know the guy. He may talk good online but you don't really know what is going on in reality. He could be hiding lots and lots.

[NeedFriend]

I agree with you. He lied to me about his conferences on few days and told me he is going to atlanta for the conference. Later he told me he lied about those. Sometimes he goes to atlanta and new york and whenever I ask he says he is with friends.

He also does not want me to go out with my friends. He says I can be in touch with them on phone.

[ChessieMom]

First of all, you haven't been "seeing him for a year". Okay? You've been COMMUNICATING with him for a year. And you've had two booty calls.

What to make of it? Nothing. Because that's what it is. Nothing. Stop wasting your time.

[Aylalou]

This guy won't commit yet he wants to control you. You will be very unhappy.

[killer2021]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

First of all, you haven't been "seeing him for a year". Okay? You've been COMMUNICATING with him for a year. And you've had two booty calls.

What to make of it? Nothing. Because that's what it is. Nothing. Stop wasting your time.

Yea I am going to agree with this.

The guy is only using you as a booty call. That is why every time you met him you had some sort of sexual relation. That is what a booty call is - a sex only partner. Nothing else. This guy might have kids, a wife, several other booty calls, who knows really. Sounds like he is trying to keep you hidden from other people.

I have a few booty calls and even I don't act that way. Then again, I don't have wife/kids etc.

[NeedFriend]

Will you tell him that you dont want to continue like that or suddenly disappear from his world.

[kygman]

I'd ask for pictures of the wife and kids! Only been together twice????

[NeedFriend]

how come you are so sure that he has a wife and kids

[IZthe411]

You met twice in a year, and each time he hit. The answer's pretty clear. Know your role (as a jumpoff) or move one.