U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 1.5 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Jump to a detailed profile or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Business Search - 14 Million verified businesses
Search for:  near: 
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 03-05-2009, 12:32 PM
 
Location: Toledo
3,857 posts, read 5,201,259 times
Reputation: 3571

Advertisements

How do you define it?


Is it to be given freely or is it earned?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 03-05-2009, 12:35 PM
 
Location: In my skin
8,058 posts, read 9,140,910 times
Reputation: 7934
Everyone gets a clean slate with me. I'll lose respect when they have betrayed that.

I don't believe people should start at the bottom and work their way up.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 12:41 PM
 
Location: Texas
1,226 posts, read 1,851,582 times
Reputation: 661
Likewise I do not give someone new an extremely positive slanted position. As their action warrant my level of respect for someone raises or lowers.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 12:56 PM
 
5,108 posts, read 7,686,306 times
Reputation: 3460
on the one hand, everyone in the world is worthy of being treated with courtesy and dignity and respect

on the other hand, I can lose respect for a person, and cease to respect them, and they have to earn it back before I respect them again. In that sense, respect is earned, and can be lost, and can be regained, like a bank account that people can make deposits into through their actions, words, deeds, how they carry themself, who they are.

but regardless of whether I respect someone or not, everyone in the world, in my world still gets treated with courtesy and respect.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 01:03 PM
 
Location: Incognito
6,995 posts, read 12,950,657 times
Reputation: 5300
A mod has a hard on for me so I will not define respect.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
15,689 posts, read 15,684,053 times
Reputation: 14005
I think everyone deserves basic courtesy, politeness and a certain level of trust uipon meeting. But it goes up or down from there with time and experience with them. What that level is...hard to define...kind of like art vs porn.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 01:57 PM
319
 
Location: washington DC
105 posts, read 140,315 times
Reputation: 35
Start at 10 and either stay there or work your way down....
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 02:41 PM
 
Location: James Island, SC
1,628 posts, read 2,397,385 times
Reputation: 921
Good question! I only just came up with these, but I think there are 5 kinds of respect:

1) Humanistic Respect: For another as a fellow human being - their personal space, rights, feelings, etc.; regardless of their status, intelligence, mental health, behavior, etc.
2) Professional or Familial Respect: For another's position or accomplishments - honoring parents & elders, submitting to requests by boss or superiors, appreciating the artistic and intellectual endeavors of others
3) Relational Respect: For the people whose lives you impact through your actions (overlaps with the other types, but trumps respect for strangers; i.e., Loyalty)
4) Spiritual Respect: Openness to others' personal journeys and beliefs in order to understand them and oneself in relation to them and the world
5) Self Respect: Remaining true to yourself to the best of your ability and understanding, striving to deepen that understanding, setting healthy boundaries with others, not taking unnecessary risks with one's health and well-being, proactive with one's own happiness and moral development
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 06:12 PM
 
Location: Toledo
3,857 posts, read 5,201,259 times
Reputation: 3571
Some interesting responses here!

To me, respect is something that is earned. I don't see politeness ‎and common courtesy as a sign of respect as much as I see it as a sympathetic action. I don't want to be treated rudely, so I do my best to be polite towards others. I reserve my respect for those that I hold in higher regard. Now with that being said, I don't necessarily have contempt for people that I don't respect. With complete strangers I take a neutral position. I don't know the ‎person well enough to put them in a higher position. Like some of you, I have point system. A person ‎earns points when they do something I see as admirable or good, they lose points when they do the ‎opposite.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 03-05-2009, 06:24 PM
 
Location: NoVa
17,906 posts, read 17,472,654 times
Reputation: 18089
Quote:
Originally Posted by yayoi View Post
How do you define it?


Is it to be given freely or is it earned?
Oh there are so many definitions.

I do believe that respect is given off the bat. Immediately earned.

If the respect is taken for granted or something is done to have you lose that respect, well, then it needs to be earned.

So how about this?

What if someone has done something to lose the respect that was given them, and they do not feel like it needs to be earned back, and you SOOOOOOO do?

What then?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $84,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
Similar Threads

All times are GMT -6. The time now is 06:09 PM.

2005-2014, Advameg, Inc.

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25 - Top