Respect (spin-off thread) (loyalty, definition, betrayed, vs)

[yayoi]

How do you define it?


Is it to be given freely or is it earned?

[PassTheChocolate]

Everyone gets a clean slate with me. I'll lose respect when they have betrayed that.

I don't believe people should start at the bottom and work their way up.

[Boneheaded]

Likewise I do not give someone new an extremely positive slanted position. As their action warrant my level of respect for someone raises or lowers.

[Tzaphkiel]

on the one hand, everyone in the world is worthy of being treated with courtesy and dignity and respect

on the other hand, I can lose respect for a person, and cease to respect them, and they have to earn it back before I respect them again. In that sense, respect is earned, and can be lost, and can be regained, like a bank account that people can make deposits into through their actions, words, deeds, how they carry themself, who they are.

but regardless of whether I respect someone or not, everyone in the world, in my world still gets treated with courtesy and respect.

[Mr.Cat]

A mod has a hard on for me so I will not define respect.

[Oildog]

I think everyone deserves basic courtesy, politeness and a certain level of trust uipon meeting. But it goes up or down from there with time and experience with them. What that level is...hard to define...kind of like art vs porn.

[319]

Start at 10 and either stay there or work your way down....

[Mearth]

Good question! I only just came up with these, but I think there are 5 kinds of respect:

1) Humanistic Respect: For another as a fellow human being - their personal space, rights, feelings, etc.; regardless of their status, intelligence, mental health, behavior, etc.
2) Professional or Familial Respect: For another's position or accomplishments - honoring parents & elders, submitting to requests by boss or superiors, appreciating the artistic and intellectual endeavors of others
3) Relational Respect: For the people whose lives you impact through your actions (overlaps with the other types, but trumps respect for strangers; i.e., Loyalty)
4) Spiritual Respect: Openness to others' personal journeys and beliefs in order to understand them and oneself in relation to them and the world
5) Self Respect: Remaining true to yourself to the best of your ability and understanding, striving to deepen that understanding, setting healthy boundaries with others, not taking unnecessary risks with one's health and well-being, proactive with one's own happiness and moral development

[yayoi]

Some interesting responses here!

To me, respect is something that is earned. I don't see politeness ‎and common courtesy as a sign of respect as much as I see it as a sympathetic action. I don't want to be treated rudely, so I do my best to be polite towards others. I reserve my respect for those that I hold in higher regard. Now with that being said, I don't necessarily have contempt for people that I don't respect. With complete strangers I take a neutral position. I don't know the ‎person well enough to put them in a higher position. Like some of you, I have point system. A person ‎earns points when they do something I see as admirable or good, they lose points when they do the ‎opposite.

[Pikantari]

Originally Posted by yayoi

How do you define it?


Is it to be given freely or is it earned?

Oh there are so many definitions.

I do believe that respect is given off the bat. Immediately earned.

If the respect is taken for granted or something is done to have you lose that respect, well, then it needs to be earned.

So how about this?

What if someone has done something to lose the respect that was given them, and they do not feel like it needs to be earned back, and you SOOOOOOO do?

What then?