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There is nothing "pessimistic" about what temptation posted.
It was realistic, not pessimistic.
Nor does it make the person "unhappy" who raises such an honest observation.
That post asked about people in denial, and people lying.
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Originally Posted by temptation001
I wonder how many people are in denial? And how many are straight up lieing....
It is realistic that a lot of people are in denial, and do lie, about how great their marriages are. That is true. It is not pessimistic. It is not cynical. It is an accurate insight and an honest observation.
It is interesting to see how quickly people jump to name-calling ("pessimistic" "unhappy") simply when someone disagrees, or posts a differing view. Please people, disagree, fine, but leave out the name-calling and disparaging labels.
There is nothing "pessimistic" about what temptation posted.
It was realistic, not pessimistic.
That post asked about people in denial, and people lying.
It is realistic that a lot of people are in denial, and do lie, about how great their marriages are. that is true. It is not pessimistic. It is not cynical. It is an accurate insight and an honest observation.
Given the few responses that are on here, I don't think the ones who have posted are in denial or lying.
I, myself, am not a liar, and have no reason to lie to a bunch of strangers and/or acquaintances online.
I have a great marriage and life. I'm sorry if that's not the popular response.
Given the few responses that are on here, I don't think the ones who have posted are in denial or lying.
I, myself, am not a liar, and have no reason to lie to a bunch of strangers and/or acquaintances online.
I have a great marriage and life. I'm sorry if that's not the popular response.
I interpret the post inquiring about how many people are in denial or lying, as "people in general in life" not "people posting on this small thread in this small forum." So my views and response address "people in life in general" rather than any particular individual on this thread.
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Given the few responses that are on here, I don't think the ones who have posted are in denial or lying.
I, myself, am not a liar, and have no reason to lie to a bunch of strangers and/or acquaintances online.
I have a great marriage and life. I'm sorry if that's not the popular response.
Mona I am happy that you are genuinely happy. I was simply making an observation about how many people are in denial. I wasnt saying EVERYBODY is in denial or lieing, so it wasnt an attack on you!
As for me being pessimistic, I really am quite the optimist, yet I do find that many people who say something and later get defensive about it, are just putting on a show.
Mona I am happy that you are genuinely happy. I was simply making an observation about how many people are in denial. I wasnt saying EVERYBODY is in denial or lieing, so it wasnt an attack on you!
As for me being pessimistic, I really am quite the optimist, yet I do find that many people who say something and later get defensive about it, are just putting on a show.
Sorry I wasnt trying to offend anyone.
No offense taken at all. I was never offended by you and hope you weren't either. The thread was going well until the drama unfolded. Like I explained to you, it was all tongue-in-cheek.
Given the few responses that are on here, I don't think the ones who have posted are in denial or lying.
I, myself, am not a liar, and have no reason to lie to a bunch of strangers and/or acquaintances online.
I have a great marriage and life. I'm sorry if that's not the popular response.
Well, that's the problem. When someone is a hammer, the rest of the world looks like a nail. Likewise, if one has had unhappy relationships because of the poor choice of a SO, poor communication skills, poor attitudes, ongoing neuroses, self-centeredness, or any number of other reasons, then that person typically believes that good marriages are a rarity. What's more, people like that savor the role of killjoys for the rest of us, warning that doom and heartbreak is just around the corner just because their relationships didn't last.
I suppose I could have married several different women in my dating years, but I also knew that each of those relationships just didn't have the sound foundation I wanted. So I waited until I found the right one.
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I was just commenting on Mr. Pessimistic's post. 
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I was simply making an observation about how many people are in denial. I wasnt saying EVERYBODY is in denial or lieing, so it wasnt an attack on you!
