Sex: Worth the Wait? (guys, romantic, feelings, relation)

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by professorsenator

The OP has waited. She is 20 years old..she could have been having sex for a good 5+ years!

Maybe its just me, but it seems a little creepy for an adult male to think that a girl who was 15 and under to be having sex and feeling sad that she missed out by not having sex that young.

JMHO.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by professorsenator

The Pill has been taken by tens of millions of women. It has proven to be extremely safe and effective after decades of use. And if the pill is not right for you, then use a latex condom -- they're extremely safe and effective, too.

The anti-sex folks are entitled to your opinion, just as I am mine. But you are NOT entitled to use irrational scare tactics in your zeal to discourage free adults form engaging in consensual sex.

Meanwhile, the other 95% of us will engage in pleasurable, fulfilling sex before marriage. Yes, that's right: steamy, hot, wet, howl-at-the-moon, damn-that-was-SO-good-let's-do-it-again sex with people we aren't married to. Don't like it? Too bad...this isn't Saudi Arabia.

Well, while you are spreading the "truth" about great sex, please don't forget to mention the ingrediant needed most for the best sex in the world - sex with someone you love who loves you just as much.

You can tout the wonders of "consensual sex" all day long, but NONE of it comes close to the kind of sex you have when love is part of the picture.

My best advice to the op - WAIT for that ingrediant or you will most likely just be disappointed in the experience.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Maybe its just me, but it seems a little creepy for an adult male to think that a girl who was 15 and under to be having sex and feeling sad that she missed out by not having sex that young.

JMHO.

God I was hoping I wasn't the only one that thought that was wack. I thought I must have misread it. Yeesh.

[Chanteuse d' Opéra]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

God I was hoping I wasn't the only one that thought that was wack. I thought I must have misread it. Yeesh.

No, you're not the only one & I was definitely not that "hormonal" at 15...Not based off of these responses, I've decided that I'm going to wait until I am at least in a committed relationship even though at this point, I feel like I'm about to burst...

[miu]

Originally Posted by professorsenator

Meanwhile, the other 95% of us will engage in pleasurable, fulfilling sex before marriage. Yes, that's right: steamy, hot, wet, howl-at-the-moon, damn-that-was-SO-good-let's-do-it-again sex with people we aren't married to. Don't like it? Too bad...this isn't Saudi Arabia.

Spoken like a man!! Men are more easily satisfied in the bedroom. As long as you get your orgasm, it's all good for you... and it really doesn't take much effort to turn a guy on and get him to orgasm.

I was almost 21 before I lost my virginity, and I have no regrets at all for not having sex before then. And it wouldn't have been a big loss to me had I waited until my mid-twenties to have sex. There are more pleasures in life than having sex.

[miu]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Maybe its just me, but it seems a little creepy for an adult male to think that a girl who was 15 and under to be having sex and feeling sad that she missed out by not having sex that young.

JMHO.

I so agree with this post!!! Creepy old men fantasizing about teenage girls having wild sex at 15... ick. I hope that he doesn't have any daughters.

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Maybe its just me, but it seems a little creepy for an adult male to think that a girl who was 15 and under to be having sex and feeling sad that she missed out by not having sex that young.

JMHO.

Eh? Could you please clarify this?

Why is it creepy for an adult man to recognize that people - both male and female - often have sex in the their early teens? How is it creepy to recognize that a 20 year old woman could have been having sex for a number of years?

Are you suggesting that I thought that she should be having sex at 15? If so, you clearly missed what I said in a previous post about 18/19/20 being the ideal age to begin having sex.

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by miu

As long as you get your orgasm, it's all good for you...

Uhhh...not true at all. How are you able to project this? I am definitely into giving *AND* receiving, thank you very much. Good sex is a two way street.

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by miu

I so agree with this post!!! Creepy old men fantasizing about teenage girls having wild sex at 15... ick. I hope that he doesn't have any daughters.

Where in the hell do you get off claiming that I was fantasizing about "teenage girls having wild sex at 15"?

And, yes, I do have a daughter as a matter of fact.

[Chanteuse d' Opéra]

^^^^ do y'all mind settling your dispute through PMs?

Another question: Is the 3-date rule or the 3-month rule better or worse or is it just better to "wait it out" until a year in?