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It depends...if I have said something mean or hurtful or way out of line....yes, I apologize(my bad)...if I say something truthful and your feelings get hurt then I am sorry that your feelings are hurt but I am not sorry for what I said(perhaps for HOW I said it... my bad again)
I learned long ago to hold my tongue....then this last year came this insane perimenopause pms crap...I kiss a lot of a$$!
When I was young, I had a hard time with this. Actually, my son, at a very young age, was able to say this with sincerity, and I learned a lot from him, and still do (though he is a full adult now). So once I learned to say it, I actually enjoy saying it if I have to. There is a tremendous freedom in letting go. But I have to admit - maybe because I've learned much through my own mistakes - I don't have a reason to say it anymore. I also have learned to let the other person be the a--hole. Then I can just walk away, as long as I'm not the a--hole.
There are those that have to be the final word on a subject, case closed, you need look no further for information as I am the utmost authority on this subject.
Personally if I offend this person..........oh freaken well!
Perspective makes the world go round, everyone has an opinion and if your fragile ego can't make room for an opposing view point then maybe your not worth keeping as a friend.
On black and white issues if I'm wrong I say so. Point blank, I was so wrong, I don't know what the H I was thinking. Hope you can overlook my screw up.
Perspective makes the world go round, everyone has an opinion and if your fragile ego can't make room for an opposing view point then maybe your not worth keeping as a friend.
This is not about having a fragile ego. If I'm doing something wrong, I expect my friends to tell me, even if it's not something I wanna hear. But people are entitled to a certain amount of respect from their friends. And if a friend can't be big enough to admit they're wrong or apologize, that speaks volume about their character.
I apologize when I know I've unilaterally transgressed.
When a person has a history of gratuitous faux-pas where I've been the recipient, I find it hard to apologize and usually have cut the person off. I find that it works better.
I once had a friend who had so little self-esteem, that she was constantly apologizing. I "trained" her to, instead of saying "I'm sorry", to say "I'm better than that". I think it had quite a positive effect.
Knowing exactly when and how to apologize is like a pitch coming 95 miles an hour, and you don't always hit a line drive.
sincere apology is a promise to do better. changing our defaults of character is painful and most find it easier to move on than improve the relationships we already have. package deal of the throw-away society, throw-away relationships.
sincere apology is a promise to do better. changing our defaults of character is painful and most find it easier to move on than improve the relationships we already have. package deal of the throw-away society, throw-away relationships.
I agree. If you can't own up to your faults or make an effort to change them when you see the impact that they're having on your relationships, then obviously the relationship isn't important enough to you to bother.
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