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I tried to join once and im only 5'8 and couldnt get a repsonse because 99% of the women wouldnt date anyoen under 6 feet or with specific color eyes etc
You would think if you are attempting online datign that means dating for you hasnt gone all that great over the years and youd think you would lower your standards a little no??
Why are women dating online picky? Why does a cat lick itself? The answer is the same - because they can.
Everyone has their criteria - women have a great advantage online because the men looking online greatly outnumber the women. I recently read a rant by an average looking guy about the above average looking guys "dating down" lately, leaving the average looking guys scrambling among the below average women.
I just can't believe the OP's premise about women not lowering their standards to accommodate to his needs. Wow, talk about chutzpah.
Because online dating, while facilitating communication, streamlines rejection.
I'm willing to bet us men are super picky online daters too. If you meet someone in real life, they may forgive your shortcomings in favor of your wit or demeanor. When somebody is browsing online, they are more likely to reject you if you don't meet every line on their "list" before you can even send them a message. This goes for men and women.
Perhaps they were picky eaters as children, and this behavior transferred to dating? LOL Anyway, if they are picky, I don't see it as a problem, as I was equally selective. I didn't care if a dozen or a hundred women picked me or not - I only needed ONE where the picking was mutual, and I was willing to wait for the RIGHT pick. As it turned out, I had plenty to choose from, but only one was really right for me anyway, and vice versa. BTW, I'm not tall, or handsome, or rich. What I am is real, sincere, and confident.
Of course, if some women are unrealistically picky, then it's still not a problem. They are only denying themselves opportunities. That makes it easier to find those who are realistic. Ultimately, the latter make for better relationships.
This statement is not necc. true...never assume because someone is an online dating site that they have had a difficult time finding someone that fits "their" criteria, the reasons can be many and varied....as to why they are utilizing this method of dating as a tool.
Exactly. And yet this is the assumption that so many people make. They figure if you're online, you must be desperate and therefore not in a position to be picky. But the reality is that many people who are out school and working don't have a lot of opportunities to meet quality people. So it makes perfect sense that they might want to expand their options. I might not have met anyone through the traditional methods like friends, family, the bar, volunteering, church, etc. So I decide to try something new like taking evening classes. Should I walk in with lower standards than I would normally have? Of course not. Same with going online. However high my standards are in the offline world, they should be just as high on the internet.
I try to do the online dating thing, and it just does not work. You can go out and have a great date, or think you did, and the woman vanishes. As an example, the last real date I had was 3 months ago, and the woman made the first move on me. It was something like a 6 hour date, and we got along very well, or so I thought. So I called her a few days later to set up another date thinking it went very well. She didn't call back and finally texts me saying we should just be "friends". Huh? I have a term for women like that: serial daters. They are looking for the next best thing. If you show any flaw at all, they're gone. For me living in Atlanta, I'm convinced its in part because I drive a Civic and not a BMW. BMW's are rampant around here, but many who drive them have no money and are in debt. But I'm judged for driving a Civic.
Anyway, online dating and dating in general just sucks. I'm divorced and never ever expected to be in this situation again, yet here I am. I don't like it at all.
You think you were rejected because you drive a Civic? I think that's a rationalization. When I was having my best success with online dating, I drove a Ford Escort station wagon. Maybe I found women who weren't shallow, or maybe they just liked me.
You think you were rejected because you drive a Civic? I think that's a rationalization. When I was having my best success with online dating, I drove a Ford Escort station wagon. Maybe I found women who weren't shallow, or maybe they just liked me.
haha. Blame it on everything else, I'm perfect in every way!
For me living in Atlanta, I'm convinced its in part because I drive a Civic and not a BMW. BMW's are rampant around here, but many who drive them have no money and are in debt. But I'm judged for driving a Civic.
Well, if you've mentioned anything similar to what you write here or just given that vibe, it's not the Civic's fault, Atlguy... There's nothing wrong with a Civic anyway.
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