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Holy hell man... if you're that ugly, just start at the bottom , go find the ugliest girl in your town, and work from there. Everybody's gotta learn whether they're in the majors or playing single-A ball.
I dont know if im that ugly or not but if they havent tried to set me up at all then i guess iam ugly..
I dont know if im that ugly or not but if they havent tried to set me up at all then i guess iam ugly..
Well, just keep sitting on your ass waiting for your friends to drop a live one right in front of you. You'll eventually figure out what works and what doesn't.
I'm also 5'8" and I'm sure there are women out there who pass me over just because of my height. But I don't let it bother me the way it seems to bother you. We all have things about ourselves we may not like, but we can't change them. One thing I've never done though is what you're doing and that's complain about the standards other people have. You need to quit worrying about women are holding against you and make due with what you have. We have all our good and bad qualities. Highlight your good ones and don't dwell on your bad ones.
All that be confident with yourself and what you look like is all good motviational talk but in reality women have to like what you look like ultimately and if they dont then your screwed..
Okay fine. Be a defeatist and be alone your whole life because you can't find it in you to like yourself. We've told you why you're getting rejected, and you either aren't listening or you don't believe us.
I have cleaned this thread up. Calling ppl names is not allowed on this forum.
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I think 5'8" is just fine, height is so unimportant. (I am a short woman by the way) and happy like that (about 5'1" ) Not all women will screen you out due to height. Im not familiar with dating sites, but you can respond to women , they can't block you from responding, right? How old are U OP? I do admit when I was younger, I did like taller men, however, even as a young girl (Ive only had 3 boyfriends) , I did date a guy who couldn't have been more than 5'5". As women get older, I think they are less superficial though . Good luck - did you try yahoo personals?
I tried to join once and im only 5'8 and couldnt get a repsonse because 99% of the women wouldnt date anyoen under 6 feet or with specific color eyes etc
How many people gave you those reasons? Just curious. Simply because someone has such things as their "preferences" does not mean they are a requirement.
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Originally Posted by JBT1980
You would think if you are attempting online datign that means dating for you hasnt gone all that great over the years and youd think you would lower your standards a little no??
Ummm...no. You're making some assumptions that you shouldn't. I use online dating because it is difficult for me to meet people in other ways, due to my lifestyle. I daresay many others have similar reasons.
Because women get A LOT of responses on these sites, if they have an attractive photo anyway. The more you have to pick from, the more choosy you can be.
Try lowering your standards and messaging less attractive women
bek even a 1 eyed hunch back has found if they post fake photos and fake info on themselves they will get the attention they craved & never dared to dream of having in person.
been there done that.
I dont know if im that ugly or not but if they havent tried to set me up at all then i guess iam ugly..
Okay, JBT1980, what is it (besides your height) that makes you think you're unattractive? Seriously, make a list and look at what's on that list that you can realistically change. If you need braces, get them. If you have bad skin, address it. If you have a lot of body hair in places where you don't want it (ie. back of the neck, a unibrow, nose hair, etc.), practice better grooming habits. If you don't wear shirts and clothes that flatter you, ask a female friend to help you pick out some. So many times I see guys pics online and think to myself, "Why did he wear that grungy offwhite polo shirt that just washes him out when a blue polo shirt would have brought out his eyes?" (I think about these things because I used to be in theatre, lol. It doesn't make me discard the guy, however; I realize guys are sometimes clueless about how to present themselves.)
But seriously, remember the show, "Que*r Eye for the Straight Guy?" Make a realistic assessment and give yourself a head to toe makeover, accepting that while you can't change everything, there are things you can. It doesn't make you shallow or superficial. It just shows that you like yourself and take care of yourself. You can't change your height, and honestly there are women who won't care about that if the rest of the package is there. And if you start liking the outside of yourself better, you'll start feeling better about the inside too. Women do this all the time--we wear makeup, get waxed, even have plastic surgery, all in the quest to feel more attractive and hence, more confident.
And one more piece of advice is don't hesitate to contact women online first. So many of the guys write in their profile that they hope you (the woman reading it) contact them or pick them or something. You'll stand out by being the guy who politely contacts them first, even if means you get rejected sometimes.
Good luck and hang in there.
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. Good luck - did you try yahoo personals?
