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While job-hunting itself is a job, if he's home most of the time he should pick up some house chores. And if she's working full-time, he should be doing half of the housework.
I would tell him if he wants to be a househusband, he should act like it and clean the house. Pull the kid out of day care. I think he'll find a job quickly.
I agree with the 100/100. Even better, it's what can be given by each partner at any given moment in the marriage/relationship. Sometimes it's 60/40; 70/30. But each should always strive to give 100%!
I agree. If you're at home and don't work, the home should be taken care of.
I've watched so many home mothers who have to work 24/7 while the hubbie completely quits after he comes home. How is that fair?
Scenario....hubby comes home to clean house, clean kids, things pretty organized, he's watching tv on couch with toddlers playing in front of tv while wife is in kitchen fixing dinner.....toddlers start beating on each other with plastic toys and start to howl.....hubby yells....."Wife! the kids are howling!" and expects her to leave fixing him dinner and come take care of the kids because "that's her job". Uh uh.
If she has been busy all days with toddlers, cleaning, running errands, etc. when he gets home it reverts to 50/50 getting done whatever else needs to get done.
When my husband was between jobs for a few weeks...he spent 7 hrs networking and sending out resumes...job seeking...the house was clean and more often than not dinner was ready when I got home. He'd usually play his drums for a while and run the dogs too.
While i was relieved and happy he went back to work.....I missed my spotless kitchen and dinner....
Yes...I think its what you want to make of it. If you care at all about the marriage, or relationship, then the other will try to put effort, or at least, I would hope so.
I will try to convenience her to keep her eyes open. Thanks!
I've watched so many home mothers who have to work 24/7 while the hubbie completely quits after he comes home. How is that fair?
Scenario....hubby comes home to clean house, clean kids, things pretty organized, he's watching tv on couch with toddlers playing in front of tv while wife is in kitchen fixing dinner.....toddlers start beating on each other with plastic toys and start to howl.....hubby yells....."Wife! the kids are howling!" and expects her to leave fixing him dinner and come take care of the kids because "that's her job". Uh uh.
If she has been busy all days with toddlers, cleaning, running errands, etc. when he gets home it reverts to 50/50 getting done whatever else needs to get done.
I've seen the scenario play out soooo many times.
How is it fair? If she had to work she'd come home to housework and childcare too. She has less work than she'd have as a working mom even doing it all at home. He should have less work too. So it is fair. She has 45 more hours a week at home because he makes it possible for her not to work. Given she'd do half of what she does now if she worked full time, she's working a lot less than she would be if he didn't provide for her and he's handing her 45 extra hours a week to do it in. Shouldn't he get a break too?
I've never understood why women think it's fair for them to quit providing for their families financially, leaving that entire burden to their husbands and then whine when he thinks she should do his half of the housework. If he's doing your half of the wage earning, of course you should do his half of the housework. She gets to give up a full time job, shouldn't he get to give up his second shift at home? All she is picking up is the half of the housework he'd do if she worked. She'd do her half on top of a full time job if she did work.
I am not sure why there is surprise here. Studies repeatedly show that even when both people work, the woman usually still picks up most of the household chores and deals with the childcare. This bears out in almost every relationship I see, as well.
I think everyone should bring something to the table in a relationship of approximately equal value. Something to look for before you marry.
Yea, you give her "her half" and she takes "your half"... Seems fair to me ROTFLOL!!!
Lets face it, the Father has no 'rights' in any Court in our Nation and its almost an impossibility to get your Kids or even custody of your kids, because all the Wife has to say is "child abuse" or something similar, (whether its true or not, and its often not), you lose!
We have no say in whether she can impregnate herself with your sperm if its frozen, and you have to pay, (even if you changed your mind years before, as long as there are Courts, your left with your pants dropped to the floor and naked to the World!).
You have no 'rights' if she decides to have an abortion and kill your kids...
You have no cottin pickin rights at all... Its just the way it is in America...Land of the free and home of the Brave LOL!
May the LORD Bless each of you.
I wish you well...
Jesse
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