How can I love my body? (men, single, husband, kids)

[smiling_nurse]

About the boobs - when I was younger I envied the big boobed chicks (full B cup is what I have always been). Now I am 34 and those same chicks' boobs have fallen to their navels and are soft and saggy. Mine are still high and firm and perky. So enjoy 'em and learn to love yourself. Being skinny is a bonus too - the ultra curvy girls often end up struggling with weight gain later on.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by runrgirl

You sound like an attractive female from what you describe. You can begin to love your body first by what it is-- HEALTHY. You don't say you have any illnesses, you can walk, you don't have to survive hooked up to machines, you are able to have sex, eat, take care of yourself- many do not have those gifts. Second, there is no one else on earth who has your body, mind or soul- you have YOUR own unique beauty and there is not another woman on earth who can emulate that. Sure, your boyfriend could pick someone else but it wouldn't be you. Third, be confident about this. Confidence is the ultimate turn on to men or women. Be proud of YOUR body. Regarding your comment about your breasts, any woman ( including you) can go out and get a boob job and fit the cookie cutter image society seems to worship. And, those are personal reasons of the woman's own business for her to decide what is right for her but is not something I understand. I am happy with my perky size B breasts and have never had any complaints.

Great post. And one thing I would add to this is that when guys do talk about a woman's looks, sometimes it's just talk. The truth is guys don't get hung up on looks nearly as much as women think we do. Personally, I don't worry about something like breast size. If she's reasonably attractive and proportionate, that's enough for me. I'm more concerned with the person underneath.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

Great post. And one thing I would add to this is that when guys do talk about a woman's looks, sometimes it's just talk. The truth is guys don't get hung up on looks nearly as much as women think we do. Personally, I don't worry about something like breast size. If she's reasonably attractive and proportionate, that's enough for me. I'm more concerned with the person underneath.

Not to mention the fact that mostly, the “hotties” seen on porno videos, fashion magazines, or Hollywood flicks & music videos are generally beyond the reach of the normal, mortal man – and that a lot of us down-to-Earth straight guys have been either burned by or turned off by the rotten personalities and bad character many (externally) beautiful women happen to have.

[weeping_guitar]

Originally Posted by Sprawling_Homeowner

Not to mention the fact that mostly, the “hotties” seen on porno videos, fashion magazines, or Hollywood flicks & music videos are generally beyond the reach of the normal, mortal man...

Ok, so this is a good thing because men are technically settling for the normal women they have at their reach, so I shouldn't feel bad because he'll never have a hottie, instead he'll have what he can (ie. me)? I should feel good because normal men can't get their hands on a "hottie", just because they aren't rich enough and they settle for the only thing available (normal, imperfect women)? Ouch.

...and that a lot of us down-to-Earth straight guys have been either burned by or turned off by the rotten personalities and bad character many (externally) beautiful women happen to have.

This I can understand, but well, maybe I'm too optimistic or hopeful with people I have't met, but there are lots of normal looking people with nasty personalities and a lot of gorgeous people, men and women with equally gorgeous personalities... and while yes, they may not be a majority, they aren't rarities either. There are lots of good looking nice people. The point is, I don't think that I should feel like I'm better than good looking women only because maybe I make up for it in the personality department, when they may have great personalities too.

[Capt. Dan]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

Great post. And one thing I would add to this is that when guys do talk about a woman's looks, sometimes it's just talk. The truth is guys don't get hung up on looks nearly as much as women think we do. Personally, I don't worry about something like breast size. If she's reasonably attractive and proportionate, that's enough for me. I'm more concerned with the person underneath.

Yep! i think women would be surprised if they really knew how little the size of her breasts meant to us. Well proportioned body, capable of intelligent conversation and isnt afraid of rug burns on her knees is all we ask!

[moonsavvy]

Confidence will grow within once you decide that you are beautiful just by being you.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by weeping_guitar

Ok, so this is a good thing because men are technically settling for the normal women they have at their reach, so I shouldn't feel bad because he'll never have a hottie, instead he'll have what he can (ie. me)? I should feel good because normal men can't get their hands on a "hottie", just because they aren't rich enough and they settle for the only thing available (normal, imperfect women)? Ouch.

What you fail to understand that "normal" women come in MANY shapes and sizes and forms, and that the "hotties" are often the MINORITY.

You need to get through your head that until you are happy with how your body is IN AND OF ITSELF regardless of what he or anybody else thinks, you will consign yourself to permanent insecurity and to a toxic dependence on the approval of others to be happy about yourself.

Stop and think this through; re-read what I just wrote. Do you think it's healthy to view the views of another as the standard by which you adjudge your body to be appropriate or lovely?

Originally Posted by weeping_guitar

This I can understand, but well, maybe I'm too optimistic or hopeful with people I have't met, but there are lots of normal looking people with nasty personalities and a lot of gorgeous people, men and women with equally gorgeous personalities... and while yes, they may not be a majority, they aren't rarities either. There are lots of good looking nice people. The point is, I don't think that I should feel like I'm better than good looking women only because maybe I make up for it in the personality department, when they may have great personalities too.

Comparing yourself with those whom you see as having MORE than you is another recipe for lifelong misery.

You must CHOOSE to be happy, and you must CHOOSE to rid yourself of harmful thoughts and dangerous attitudes. Start by teaching yourself that your body is unique and beautiful and that it should be a source of pride for nobody other than yourself.

[artsyguy]

With all due respect, have you tried plastic surgery?

[nitokenshi]

Originally Posted by artsyguy

With all due respect, have you tried plastic surgery?

have you?if you did you should get a refund

[Mearth]

Originally Posted by artsyguy

With all due respect, have you tried plastic surgery?

There is nothing respectful about this question.