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I don't think she was implying that, I guess she just assumed since I said "girlfriend" I meant a platonic friend.
I won't clarify what the term means to me but it won't be some big secret when we get there that I am with my girlfriend. I guess maybe this particular massage therapist is not used to having same-sex couples come in since her first assumption was that I had a husband. I would have preferred her not have made any assumptions and just asked what type of couples massage: hot stone, deep tissue, thai, etc and not, "Oh, you and your husband?"
You could have easily nipped this in the bud by replying "no, me and my partner. Her name is __________".
I've always used the word girlfriends to describe my female freinds, and I'd like to add, that during the course of my life, I've been blessed in having the girlfriends I've had.
Some of them are still in my life, While others, have come and gone, as we've had to follow our dreams, or they've passed away...but, all in all, I've been blessed with the kind of girlfriends that God would be very proud of.
I've always considered myself a rebel of sorts, and presently can't help but smile when I think of these angels who touched my life in such a positive ways. Perhaps He was trying to tell me something?
I don't believe there is a stronger bond, then the ones you make with your girl friends, while thinking of Steel Magnolias, or Green Fried Tomatoes I must say, this thread gives me the opportunity to say to all those women who were positive influences in my life...
Thank you, with all my heart.
Your sexuality is a part of who you are, but ask your self this; are you a lesbian first and a human being second, or third, or fourth, etc.? Your sexuality does not define you as a person, and if it does, then be prepared to live a life of frustration. Unless someone is using your sexuality to discriminate against you, to heck with what they say.
And, if you do not like the reference that this woman used towards you, why don't you take your business elsewhere?
Good point but since I live in AR, it's pretty rare to find someone who would use gender neutral terms because they are aware that gays and lesbians exist and think it's important to use gender neutral language.
I know I'm a human being second but living in AR and sometimes feeling like a targeted group, I just have a heightened sense of awareness when it comes to things like this. I bet the woman probably didn't mean it in a rude way but it can be annoying when everyone assumes you're straight and married.
Depending on how we're treated, it will affect if we'll go back to her. One massage place we went to treated us really nice and they knew we were a couple. They invited us to come back again and get some pedicures done together.
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You could have easily nipped this in the bud by replying "no, me and my partner. Her name is __________".
Enjoy your massage!
Eh...I hate the word partner for the most part.
Plus my girlfriend and I aren't in the stage in our relationship where we say partner. I generally see that as a term same-sex couples use when they've been together for say...5+ years or so.
I usually say friend, unless i want to specifically indicate the gender of my friend. I was just telling someone today that I was going with my "girlfriend" and our kids somewhere this weekend. I am not sure why as I don't use the term girlfriend very often, but I do use it sometimes (I'm 33 btw, don't know how old you are but I don't call 33 old)
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Eh...I hate the word partner for the most part.
Plus my girlfriend and I aren't in the stage in our relationship where we say partner. I generally see that as a term same-sex couples use when they've been together for say...5+ years or so.
I understand your dislike of the word partner, but unfortunately for you "girlfriend" said by a woman kind of is in use already to describe a "girl" "friend" and if you choose to go with the word girlfriend you are gonna have some 'splainin to do, if you want people to understand you.
Gay men don't have this problem because you never find men saying, "Hey, I'm going to my boyfriend's house tomorrow".
I have a feeling when you and your girlfriend show up, the receptionist might realize that she shouldn't make assumptions.
Im a guy, but I voted. I closed my eyes and pretended I was a girl, and just clicked!
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