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Old 03-20-2009, 08:12 AM
 
Location: Nova, D.C.,
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Thanks for all the advice. I just need to "get real" as Dr. Phil would say! I probably will not even see him and won't have the time.
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Old 03-20-2009, 11:31 AM
 
Location: NW Nevada
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Well Artsy, moving on is not as hard as it seems. Just like horses, there are to many GOOD men out there to waste your time with a bad one that might kill you if you keep trying to make the ride. My wife was in a bad relationship before we got together. The guy was a real peach. She kept trying for 8 long years. I still don't understand the reasons why but it seems to be a common thing. She did have two kids with him (whom I adopted and raised as my own after a breif battle with the idiot). It was a long road getting her past all the felgercarb he put her through.(the kids to) Don't let this clown ruin your life. And try and dump the baggage he left you. Find a REAL man and live your life. It's not a hopeless search, really.
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Old 03-20-2009, 07:36 PM
 
Location: Nova, D.C.,
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Well Artsy, moving on is not as hard as it seems. Just like horses, there are to many GOOD men out there to waste your time with a bad one that might kill you if you keep trying to make the ride. My wife was in a bad relationship before we got together. The guy was a real peach. She kept trying for 8 long years. I still don't understand the reasons why but it seems to be a common thing. She did have two kids with him (whom I adopted and raised as my own after a breif battle with the idiot). It was a long road getting her past all the felgercarb he put her through.(the kids to) Don't let this clown ruin your life. And try and dump the baggage he left you. Find a REAL man and live your life. It's not a hopeless search, really.
Thank you. It is nice to know there are still good men out there! From what I have experienced and read about DV, it is very complex and the reason you go back again and again is because you are already emotionally attached and care for the person. These people do not come right out at first. Then you want to believe they will change and also there is a lot of fear about leaving. It takes a lot of planning and courage. I went back and forth ten or so times. It is called a cycle of abuse and it is what it is. Alot of people do not understand all the dynamics in these relationships. It does not matter how smart you are once you are in an abusive relationship. It is easy for people to say just leave, but what looks like common sense is not so easy. It is complex. I am glad your wife got away and there is hope.

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