Why did my ex-boyfriend contact me after a month? (dating, wife, married)
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My ex-boyfriend and I were quite serious, even thinking about our future with each other. We were together for about 7 months until we ended it. It led to me not trusting him because he was still in contact with his ex-gf as well going on dates with other girls. The problem is I thought during those times we were exclusive but I guess for him it never was. He made me think I was by saying he was falling for me, how I was the first to make him feel this way about a girl, how he saw me as his wife, etc.
About a month ago, I wrote him an email telling him how I was so hurt by him when he has no idea, about how he shouldn't have led me on thinking that I was the only one while going on dates with others etc. He replied to the email saying he wanted to respond in person, but I ended up not meeting up because I felt like I said what I need to say in the email and it was just painful. He never responded afterwards. One thing I know is that he went on dates with younger girls after I sent that email.
Then a few days ago, which was a month after I had emailed him, he replies back in a long email saying how he was sorry that he had hurt me and how he learned a lot from our experience.
If he truly felt bad and sorry, why did he wait ONE MONTH to reply? when he was going on dates with younger girls. Is it because I wasn't contacting him when I usually do?
He waited a month because his dates kept him occupied, he's going through a lull now so he responded to your email. He's full of poop, don't respond to him.
Same reason my ex wife emailed me last week and my ex mother in law sent me a friends request yesterday.
No idea why. But my answer remains the same with both. No effing way.
Awwww, why you gotta be so mean? Maybe they want to make up for lost time, lol!
But yes, OP, everyone here is right. Just ignore it and move on because you're more than likely his back up. He didn't respect you during your relationship and he isn't going to respect you now.
Last edited by weeblywobbly; 06-27-2015 at 08:48 PM..
Reason: Answered OP
OP, you said: "We were together for about 7 months until we ended it. It led to me not trusting him because he was still in contact with his ex-gf as well going on dates with other girls. The problem is I thought during those times we were exclusive but I guess for him it never was. He made me think I was by saying he was falling for me, how I was the first to make him feel this way about a girl, how he saw me as his wife, etc."
I am confused......If he was dating other girls after the both of you ended it, he did nothing wrong. It doesn't matter if he was still in contact with his ex-gf's. That was his choice as the two of you were no longer in a relationship with one another. You were free to date who you wanted to as well.
It doesn't mean that he was not trustworthy and was not sincere when he told you how much he cared about you.
If on the other hand, he was dating other women while he was in a serious relationship with you, then you absolutely have reason not to trust him. That is why you should count your blessings and be grateful that you found out about his cheating before you married him because he would not have been any more faithful to you once married and his "I do" would eventually mean "Adieu".
Did you have a talk about being exclusive, or did you assume the title of gf/bf? It seems the latter.
After 7 months? One can't have a reasonable expectation of exclusivity, whether or not a talk has been held, after 7 months?
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