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like pouring squid ink on a shark.
women crave the appearance of confidence, high self esteem is a giant woman magnet. has nothing to do with character at all but nobody said life is fair. since self esteem is pretty much fixed in formative years there is nothing you can do about this, very often nice guys are not high self esteem men.
A joke is a joke and thats always attractive to me but I can always spot a practiced approach, one that guys use to put me at my ease so they can get something from me.
Its sort of like watching Animal Planet and you can see a cheetah for example go through certain patterns in finding and taking down prey. Men who are trying to get something from me act the same way. Guys who are looking for someone to take care of them, looking for someone to sleep with that kind of thing.
I have a friend who is constantly talking about his bad luck with women and saying he's never going to get a girlfriend. I dont know if he thinks its humorous or what. I just feel sorry for the guy. But I'm not attracted to that kind of talk.
On the other hand the other day someone mentioned being a bad lay here in CD and I thought it was so honest. I like that, so long as he doesnt start whining about never getting any women. Cus thats not my problem, buddy.
A few comments are good, shows a man is grounded. A whole list of comments is not funny though.
If it's said in a funny away and not a "poor me" way, I think it's fine. Everyone needs to laugh at themselves and nobody's perfect. Sometimes if I guy seems way over confident and doesn't make any jokes about himself it's a real turn off for me. Self confidence if fine, but arrogance is not.
Use with caution.
I know by experience that my attempts at self-deprecating humour were more than once pisconstrued as lack of self-esteem.
But sometimes it can be objectively witty : recently I sent a girl a picture of myself doing the jackass with the subtitle "ugly & stupid" (she knows I'm neither ...)
No, I don't think its bad to poke fun at yourself in general. My late husband use to say..."I love my picture taken but my nose is the first thing that enters the picture"....He did have a big nose but it was part of what gave him character..the nose and the ability to laugh at himself. A steady diet of it might grow old just like a steady diet of any off beat humor would.
I find that having an ability to accept your weak points as well as your strong points is not a character flaw...it is a gift.
Example....for years and years now, I have had on again off again back issues..back aches and stuff. I never said too much to the doctor about them but finally at age 61 I did. I told my doctor that I felt the reason my back hurt was because for years and years I have been carrying around a BIG BUTT and I think because of the force of gravity and old age...my BUTT is finally pulling my back off! We both had a good laugh
A joke is a joke and thats always attractive to me but I can always spot a practiced approach, one that guys use to put me at my ease so they can get something from me.
Its sort of like watching Animal Planet and you can see a cheetah for example go through certain patterns in finding and taking down prey. Men who are trying to get something from me act the same way. Guys who are looking for someone to take care of them, looking for someone to sleep with that kind of thing.
Absolutely. A witty man who can make me genuinely laugh is very attractive. A salesman practicing his act turns me off.
As long as what your saying doesn't come off as asking for compliments, it would be ok.
I, myself, would cringe at the idea that I have to knowingly spend the evening building up your ego.
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Self-depricating humor
