Question for guys..... (married, girl, single, kids)

[sportsfangal]

ok, so I have a question, why do guys call up a girl anywhere from 2 to 6 months after supposedly "disappearing"? I'll explain:

A while back, I posted about a guy who I really liked and wanted a relationship with, (we knew each other for about 3 yrs) but he told me he doesn't want to get married or have kids. (but it's ok to be intimate?)

He's the one that said "let's be friends-I posted a thread about him before) so, of course I ignore his "friends" request (by text, no less!) and go on with my life. If he's not looking for the same things I am, then forget it! (I'll have sex with you, but I won't date you, marry you, or have kids with you)

Well, like clockwork, (after 4 months) he texted me last week, he wrote: "Hi there! Just thinking about you and hope you are doing great!"

So, I ignore this of course. I mean, why do guys always seem to reappear after a few months? I told this guy that I wanted a real relationship with him, get married and have kids, and he told me he doesn't want that. So IMO there's no need to continue a "friendship" at all.

Am I reading too much into his text? It's been 4 months--Why does he care how I am? Why does he assume I'm even still single?? Or that I have the same phone number, etc.

Guys (or gals)-any thoughts?

*p.s- I don't need "friends" who only want to contact me every 2 to 6 months!!!

[Twinkle Toes]

Because he's probably hoping you'll change your mind and give in to the ONS.

[misplaced1]

Glad to see you are looking out for yourself! Wish more would.

[Ron.]

He's "available" and looking to get "back in" and possibly with a relationship...........or maybe he's trying to make a second attempt to "hit it".




R

[sportsfangal]

yes, this is my thought as well. funny thing is, I'm not the only girl out there! why doesn't he go for someone else? someone who wants the same things HE wants?? if he knows I want a relationship, why bother??

Originally Posted by Ron.

He's "available" and looking to get "back in" and possibly with a relationship...........or maybe he's trying to make a second attempt to "hit it".




R

[sportsfangal]

thanks! should I respond by reiterating what I'm looking for and if he doesn't want it, then to leave me alone?
should I tell him to leave me alone? or just ignore him??
99.9% of me wants to just IGNORE him. I'm a catch, and if he doesn't see that, then too bad.

Originally Posted by misplaced1

Glad to see you are looking out for yourself! Wish more would.

[sportsfangal]

what's ONS???

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

Because he's probably hoping you'll change your mind and give in to the ONS.

[Ron.]

He contacted you because it is much easier to contact someone he knows than to find someone new and unknown.

Originally Posted by sportsfangal

yes, this is my thought as well. funny thing is, I'm not the only girl out there! why doesn't he go for someone else? someone who wants the same things HE wants?? if he knows I want a relationship, why bother??

[Ron.]

Originally Posted by sportsfangal

what's ONS???

One Night Stand

[sportsfangal]

yeah, but if he's now "available" then he didn't seem to have a problem finding someone before???
maybe he's realizing what he is missing out on, or like you said, he's just looking for a familiar person to "hang out" with. But I value myself more than that. After I realized he was only after one thing from me, I moved on. It's so callus of him to think that I would just bow down and "forget" everything I told him before or that I've suddenly changed my mind and now I don't mind being used by him!! UGH!!

Originally Posted by Ron.

He contacted you because it is much easier to contact someone he knows than to find someone new and unknown.