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I wouldn't say men are afraid of feelings. Generally, however, men tend to make decisions / judgments primarily based on rationalization and logic. A few women do as well, but most tend to be more likely to follow their emotions.
Yup I think this is it. Women think with their emotions while men think with logic.
you can control your mind but not your feelings. can put you in jail in a jiffy, can make you a slave to a beautiful woman pdq. scary stuff.
Well, there's plenty of BS written about how you "choose" how to feel. I've tried it on occasion, but the charade is certainly not lasting... You can pretend to feel differently only for so long...
I agree. The male friends I have are great to talk to about stuff because they don't take it personally and don't become so empathetic that they lose sight of the reality of the situation. I love my female friends, but so many times when I share a serious problem with them, they'll kind of go "Pollyanna" on me, and always try to spin the problem into a happy ending, even when there's no way in hell this problem is going to work out. They are just trying to be a good friends to me, but they also aren't allowing me to really discuss the pros and cons of the situation. Some times problems don't have happy endings, just real solutions.
I absolutely agree. In fact, I'm going through this right now. I'm dealing with a friend's suicide and I've talked about my feelings with both male and female friends. The male response is to listen and acknowledge the pain and all of the issues involved. My female friends told me I really need to go shopping, pamper myself, and try to put it out of my mind. I know they mean well but, dang, the last thing I want to do right now is go to the mall!
& emotions? Why does whenever a woman express how she feels, it often sends a guy running away scared. I can understand if it was a little early in the relationship, that's never good but overall, I think that boys are generally afraid of women expressing emotions/feelings over them. Men are not.
Thoughts?
I think it depends. Once men get older, I think they grow out of (or "up out of") that stage. And some never have issues with that in the first place.
It's gonna vary a lot from person to person, as most things do...
I think "some" men just don't know "how" to express their feelings. That doesn't make them bad person, but with trust and friendship it will come out eventually. Some woman just don't have enough patience and want her man to fulfill something she may or may not be lacking. Either way, if you accept your man for who he is and not try and make him into something you feel is "acceptable" then he will be more comfortable in revealing more of his true feelings in time.
Sometimes woman and men "miss the big picture". They want their mate to say this and say that and its either not in them or it is. If you sit back and look at the things they have done for you..ie by your flowers, candy, take you to the beach, dinner etc.. you will realize that his feelings are evident, but you just missed it.
You know that old saying: "Actions speak louder then words".
I absolutely agree. In fact, I'm going through this right now. I'm dealing with a friend's suicide and I've talked about my feelings with both male and female friends. The male response is to listen and acknowledge the pain and all of the issues involved. My female friends told me I really need to go shopping, pamper myself, and try to put it out of my mind. I know they mean well but, dang, the last thing I want to do right now is go to the mall!
I have to admit when it's a crisis like this, men's reactions are very helpful - just a nudge or a word or two and no more - but their feelings seem to pass right into yours, and you know that they know.
I think "some" men just don't know "how" to express their feelings. That doesn't make them bad person, but with trust and friendship it will come out eventually. Some woman just don't have enough patience and want her man to fulfill something she may or may not be lacking. Either way, if you accept your man for who he is and not try and make him into something you feel is "acceptable" then he will be more comfortable in revealing more of his true feelings in time.
Sometimes woman and men "miss the big picture". They want their mate to say this and say that and its either not in them or it is. If you sit back and look at the things they have done for you..ie by your flowers, candy, take you to the beach, dinner etc.. you will realize that his feelings are evident, but you just missed it.
You know that old saying: "Actions speak louder then words".
That's a good point, but Women may know that, but they just like to hear it.
It's funny the other day my girl specifically asked if I felt a certain way- she used the exact word, and it was so HARD for me to say "yes". And after saying yes, I walked away feeling like I gave up some of my manhood. It was crazy LOL.
Yup I think this is it. Women think with their emotions while men think with logic.
I am not trying to start a fight here, but I HATE this line of thinking. It isn't even "logical". Men think with their emotions all the time. It's just that the easy or accepted ones in our culture for men are anger, pride, being territorial, etc. Those are still emotions.
When you find a man who can be "logical" and can still express the OTHER kinds of emotion...you have found a real man. Thankfully most men can.
I admit, though, that most men hate "drama" unless it's on the sports field. When a guy is avoiding a discussion he's usually avoiding "drama".
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I know they mean well but, dang, the last thing I want to do right now is go to the mall!
Once men get older, I think they grow out of (or "up out of") that stage. And some never have issues with that in the first place.
