ladies, what are some simple ways on how to keep you from cheating?

[killer2021]

If cheating is problem with you then you must avoid those people.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

I think it is more a long the lines of a personality/life style choice. They just can't be with one person, they like variety. Some people are the opposite and prefer only one person. Everyone is different, avoid people who cheat if you don't like it.

Either the person loves you and cares about you or they don't. If they don't love you anymore just leave and find someone else. That is a good reason on why you shouldn't rush into marriage.

[CaydenJ]

Some men/women are more prone to cheating than others. There are many factors as to what makes someone cheat. It can be you, her, or just someone else she's come to be extremely attracted to separate from what goes on in the relationship, a variation of other factors, or all of the above. Love = a base, hard work, and some study of probability and a piece of both your hair and a rabbits foot.

[Connecticut Pam]

Originally Posted by LEVOW

This is for those that have cheated, had affairs, or have thought about it. Alot of women, think us men are psychics, but like it was mentioned on my other post,men half of the time dont know why their woman cheated! What can we do or improve on, to keep you from running out, to men, its all about pride, that where it hurts the worst when a woman cheats!!!

I have never cheated, was temped when I was married to my first husband and what drove me to even think about it was he drank, he smoked dope, he sold dope, he chased women, he wouldn't work, he would take off and leave my son and I for a 2 or 3 day drunk, wouldn't take care of our old house....enough reason?? This is a tad extreme and not all men act this bad. What I truly think women want is:

1. Hugs and kisses when you get home from work and ask us how OUR day went.

2. When you make love to us...take your time and enjoy what you are doing..plan a night with no distractions to accomplish this.

3. Tell us you love us without us having to ask if you do.

4. When you finish a meal we have made for you...don't just burp and walk away from the table thinking this is enough of a compliment...tell us how great the meal was.

5. Plan a date night at least twice a month...go someplace you have never been before and YOU actually find the childcare if it is needed.

6. Maybe go to the doctors with us if we are going for a scary appointment or are scared to go alone. My husband does this for me and I LOVE IT.

7. If we are cranky as we can be...ask if there is anything we want to talk about, or maybe fix US a glass of wine in either case listen to why we are upset.

8. Never, not ever repeat any of our most intimate moments to your friends...what happens at home stays at home.

9. Understand that women like to go be with their friends for lunch, need time out, may want to take up golf, join a gym or in my case join "The Red Hat Society"....go to the senior center (LOL)....we need our time out too.

10. Know that when we say we love you we mean it and when you don't respond and mean it back, it hurts.

Ok....I think that about covers most of it. I don't think any of the above is asking much and in the long run, you benefit too because your wife is happy and not so tired she can't spend "quality time" with you.

[Tzaphkiel]

before jumping in the sack, get to know the person

spend time TALKING (in an upright position, not while rolling around on the couch or floor or bed)
have a conversation about "are you monogamous?" "under what conditions is it OK to NOT be monogamous" "is monogamy important to you in a person? in a relationship"

things like that
and if you don't know the person well enough to trust what they are telling you,
or you know them well and DON'T trust them,
then cheating could likely become a problem

so a good piece of the pie is behaving in ways that are trustworthy, and choosing to be with people who are trustworthy, and not "ignoring" things you may not want to see in a person

[ulnevrwalkalone]

Originally Posted by LEVOW

This is for those that have cheated, had affairs, or have thought about it. Alot of women, think us men are psychics, but like it was mentioned on my other post,men half of the time dont know why their woman cheated! What can we do or improve on, to keep you from running out, to men, its all about pride, that where it hurts the worst when a woman cheats!!!

This is just a weird post in general, Are you just worried about being cheated on or do people cheat on you a lot??? Either way if you get cheated on and its your pride that is hurt the most then you have your answer as to why right there. If its all about you then shes eventually going to leave to find a guy who knows how to treat her right.