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There is a couple we know who met when they were both married, had an affair, both left their spouses and married one another.
From the outside they appear to be happy together. They have a lovely family together but I have noticed the wife is very guarded at social functions because we all know the first wife and the nitty gritty details surrounding the divorce. This marriage will never be their story to tell...they can never tell a wonderfully romantic story about their first meeting because it is a tainted story. It will be forever linked to a sordid affair that devastated two families...
or any man with 4 children that will sleep with a new woman before the divorce is final will just as easily sleep around on the new woman at some point. it goes both ways!
You are right, it does go both ways and he knows how mad I am about it. He got involved with her while I was still unpacking, before we ever even spoke about divorce.
I like how Basalt keeps coming in here and bashing the topic. He/she must really be interested in it to keep coming back - despite his/her stupid remarks!
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I like how Basalt keeps coming in here and bashing the topic. He/she must really be interested in it to keep coming back - despite his/her stupid remarks!
Oh, the hypocrisy! So you were truthful to each other, but not to the people who were suppose to mean the most to you. You know, the ones you married? You can not be honest with others until you are honest with yourself.
If two people who had an affair together truly wanted to make it work, I think they would have to do a lot of work on themselves beforehand. Did you ever come clean with your current wife? About everything? I mean the whole bucket of beans, not just dribble out a little here and there.
If you want any future relationship to work (not just a contemplation of one with your affair partner), you would need to find out what was wrong with yourself, missing inside you, that led you to commit adultery. It certainly wasn't your wife's fault. You may have had problems in the marriage, but she didn't take a hold of your pork and stick it where it shouldn't have gone.
Figure that out, over come it, accept responsibility for your actions, and it may just be possible.
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