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View Poll Results: What should I do?
Tell her to kiss off 8 21.05%
Try and meet up with her 4 10.53%
completely ignore her 12 31.58%
Tell her I meant what I said but cannot be treated this way 14 36.84%
Voters: 38. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 04-07-2009, 09:42 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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She's pretty darn smart. She has her bo in Dayton and still plays you in Cbus like a chump- and you seem to love it.

I love it, I really do. She strings you along like a pro. How's it feel to have a hook in your lower lip being reeled in and let out, reeled in and let out, reeled in and let out... I wonder how many dozen times she can do it to ya, big fella.
I'm trading in my answer for this one.
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Old 04-07-2009, 09:59 PM
 
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You might also have to keep your fingies and toes crossed too!
Um. There is no way my partner is going to be able to keep that level of motor function. Just saying. Sensory overload for the win.
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Old 04-07-2009, 10:01 PM
 
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Sorry to have to break it to you, but, here's the truth. It's not that she doesn't beleive what you said to her. Its that she doesn't want to beleive. Because that would mean that she can no longer hang out with you and not feel guilty about leading you on. But it sounds like she has fun with you and doesn't want the fun to end just because you have feelings for her.
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Old 04-07-2009, 10:01 PM
 
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She's pretty darn smart. She has her bo in Dayton and still plays you in Cbus like a chump- and you seem to love it.

I love it, I really do. She strings you along like a pro. How's it feel to have a hook in your lower lip being reeled in and let out, reeled in and let out, reeled in and let out... I wonder how many dozen times she can do it to ya, big fella.
GREAT post. I had a girl or two in college that like to do this....or at least tried. Had a long-distance bf and would love to flirt-tease me when they got lonely and it suited them. <points towards the door>
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Old 04-07-2009, 10:04 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Sorry to have to break it to you, but, here's the truth. It's not that she doesn't beleive what you said to her. Its that she doesn't want to beleive. Because that would mean that she can no longer hang out with you and not feel guilty about leading you on. But it sounds like she has fun with you and doesn't want the fun to end just because you have feelings for her.
So men, basically, believe that women can't possibly just want to be friends with a guy?
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Old 04-07-2009, 10:21 PM
 
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So men, basically, believe that women can't possibly just want to be friends with a guy?
I dont know what men think, but if shes making out with him, then its not likely she just wants his friendship only. Or, maybe she does, but she doesnt want him to be her boyfriend anyway.
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Old 04-08-2009, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Columbus, OH
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I'm confused as all hell by this post....

1) Theses drunken make out sessions...was she by any chance with "long term boyfriend" when this occured? Or is "long term" three weeks to you?

2) this you two traveling to see each other...was this during her time of being with "long term boyfriend"?

3) just from your description of events it sounds like you're the boy who doesn't realize you're sort of a g-friend she runs to inbetween...No offense
1 & 2, No, each time was when she is single

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She's pretty darn smart. She has her bo in Dayton and still plays you in Cbus like a chump- and you seem to love it.

I love it, I really do. She strings you along like a pro. How's it feel to have a hook in your lower lip being reeled in and let out, reeled in and let out, reeled in and let out... I wonder how many dozen times she can do it to ya, big fella.
Though I do appreciate the imagery I do not see how I am being played like a chump. I found out she has a new BF and stopped talking to her, shes trying to reach me and I was simply asking what people think is the best response. Its not like I am sitting on my ass waiting for her to call, I am going out and having fun myself.

But it sounds like you have either been burned yourself and have some hostility inside you, or you just enjoy the thought of other people's misery. You get pleasure out of the idea of a girl messing with a guy's emotions, thats just weird. And either way your response was not very helpful.
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Old 04-08-2009, 08:27 AM
 
Location: Cincinnati, Ohio
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The only resonable option is the last one. Confront her about it - preferably in person and tell her that you are interested in her but being blown off and ignored is no way to treat anyone. Either she will get it and you can remain true friends or she is a fake non caring person and you move on.

G Man
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Old 04-08-2009, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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Thats the thing, I was not wasting anymore time on her. I am out there looking for a new relationship with some success but is it weird that I compare the girls I meet to this girl? I think I am just hung up on this girl that got away thing but I also feel we have spent way too much time being friends ( almost 4 years now) to just let it fizzle into nothing...

And to those saying Im stuck in the friend zone, do the times we made out not count for anything b/c alcohol is involved*??

*were not talking black out drunk, just a few beers/wine
If those times counted, she would be trying to have a romantic relationship with you. Women view making out the way men view sex. Just because you do it, doesn't mean you are in a relationship. Esp if the only times it happened you were drinking. (you don't have to be black out drunk to be drunk)

If you really feel you have too much time and emotion invested to simply walk away, then you need to man up and tell her (with NO alcohol involved) exactly how you feel.
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Old 04-08-2009, 09:37 AM
 
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I voted to ignore her.

Girls love attention.

HOWEVER

Ideally, you can talk to her about it while sober. If she hedges during her response and isn't straightforward with you while you're be direct and making it as easy as possible for her to be honest, I would guess it means she loves attention and the little game she is playing.
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