When someone gets mad

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Pikantari

Last night I got this:

"I f-ing hate you. F off!"

I was upset because one of the kids left a spoon in the bed and I threw it off the bed and it hit the door.

He stormed out of the room and I went to sleep. The next time I saw him he was sleeping at the foot of the bed and it was about 6:30 am.

Hey. Kids learn that stuff from their parents, sorry to say. If you're a hothead with a foul mouth, then the apple won't fall very far from the tree.

If I'm really furious with one of my children, I leave the room, count to ten, and walk back in. Doesn't happen often.

[Pikantari]

I did not get that from a kid. I got that from my SO.

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by Pikantari

I did not get that from a kid. I got that from my SO.

Yeah, well, flinging a spoon at the door doesn't exactly count as adult behavior either. So neither of you are exactly a model for what to do.

Again, kids learn from their parents. If this is how you express anger, then they'll think that's how they're supposed to behave. It's just a terrible lesson to teach them.

[Bluesmama]

I don't fall into rages often, but most of my life I've had tendencies to pop off hurtful things. And I often did mean what I said ~ only at the time I said it. Other times I'd say things I knew I didn't mean but knew it would hurt.

But it isn't always productive. I've been working on this problem for several years now. It was about time I learned to think before I bellow in anger.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Pikantari

I did not get that from a kid. I got that from my SO.

In that case, you have a very immature significant other

Responsible adults learn how to control themselves in all situations and don't speak to people they claim to love that way.

[Pikantari]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Yeah, well, flinging a spoon at the door doesn't exactly count as adult behavior either. So neither of you are exactly a model for what to do.

Again, kids learn from their parents. If this is how you express anger, then they'll think that's how they're supposed to behave. It's just a terrible lesson to teach them.

I'll agree with that, but what it lead up from was me coming into the bedroom after having taken a shower and asking his son who was laying in our bed eating cereal if he could leave for a few mins while I got dressed and he told me to leave and go dress in the bathroom.

I was told to laugh it off, I can see that one or two times but it is the type thing that happens often.