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What is with these type of folks that bring you up with compliments and then later do or say something to tear you down? Then they keep that cycle up throughout your friendship or work relationship.
Is that some psychological way to destroy somebody's self worth or confidence?
It must be my bad luck because in the past I've met circles of people that do that, including professionals.
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Maybe you're confusing someone disagreeing with you as tearing you down. It seems to be an epidemic these days. Disagreeing is not synonymous with hate, or bashing or belittling....
Friendships are full of ups and downs. They have their opinion and many times when they think you are wrong about something, they will tell you because they dont want you to make any big mistakes, and they might seem like they are trying to bring you down, when in reality they are just expressing their opinion on something.
Artsy, it seems you are very sensitive & take many things as a personal affront. So many people are rude to you, insulting you, playing mind games, etc. I'm sure your feelings are legitimate, but you have to wonder if you're not taking it more to heart than necessary.
It's really not worth your energy to get your feathers ruffled over it, and it's frustrating to try and analyze something that is likely irrational anyway.
Sometimes it's better just to ignore it & not give it any significance, or give people the benefit of the doubt that they didn't mean it in the way you're taking it.
Maybe you're confusing someone disagreeing with you as tearing you down. It seems to be an epidemic these days. Disagreeing is not synonymous with hate, or bashing or belittling....
I've noticed that too. Especially when the person thinks with emotions rather than an open minded based view based on logic.
A friend of mine is a good example. He thinks he is high and mighty because he is very smart, but I know his secrets. Yes, it is psychological. The insecurities they have are like split personalities. When they are feeling down about themselves (to them, they "have no problems") so they'll put it on you. These type of people are very hard to get to know and will always be this way UNTIL you give it to them hard and fast, not that way, but to throw their insecurities in their face!! Haha, it's the only cure for that moment (they usually go back to their old ways.) The only way is to break them down and when they know you can do that to them, they'll respect you.
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