should I be honest with him? (dating, woman, love, too young)

[alohaha]

I met him from on line dating website. So we started dating for over 2 months so far, and he said he loves me after we dated for about 1 months.

He is very nice and caring to me, and I feel loved and happy being with him. He also introduced me to his family and always calls and sends messages me. he also thinks I am the one.

So last night he was unhappy that he found me still have my profile on that dating website. (He had taken off his profile after we dated for two or three weeks.) So to make him happy, I deleted my profile.

But now I realize that I am not happy, I still want to keep my options open and want to put my profile back on that website, but at the same time I don't want to lose him or hurt him, I like him a lot. what if I can't find another man who loves me more or is better than him?

what should I do? should I be honest with him and tell him what I think? would he go away and think anything bad about me? or should I exclusively date him for a while and see how it goes?

[lyzzard]

Sounds like things are moving fast. Being honest is the most important thing you can do in a relationship. Keeping your feelings in to make him happy will just build resentment. Tell him how you feel and go from there.

[alohaha]

so i've heard that guys like chasing, and are hunters. so maybe if i told him that I would like to keep my options open, he might be fine with it??

[alohaha]

Originally Posted by lyzzard

Sounds like things are moving fast. Being honest is the most important thing you can do in a relationship. Keeping your feelings in to make him happy will just build resentment. Tell him how you feel and go from there.

so how should i tell him in a nice way?? just be straightforward that I don't want to be settled and want to keep my options open?? that doesn't sound nice...

what would you say in this situation if you were me??

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by alohaha

I met him from on line dating website. So we started dating for over 2 months so far, and he said he loves me after we dated for about 1 months.

He is very nice and caring to me, and I feel loved and happy being with him. He also introduced me to his family and always calls and sends messages me. he also thinks I am the one.

So last night he was unhappy that he found me still have my profile on that dating website. (He had taken off his profile after we dated for two or three weeks.) So to make him happy, I deleted my profile.

But now I realize that I am not happy, I still want to keep my options open and want to put my profile back on that website, but at the same time I don't want to lose him or hurt him, I like him a lot. what if I can't find another man who loves me more or is better than him?

what should I do? should I be honest with him and tell him what I think? would he go away and think anything bad about me? or should I exclusively date him for a while and see how it goes?

Are you sleeping with him? If so, you're being dishonest with him as well as with everyone else on the dating site.

If you are not content to be exclusive with him, tell him so. It's completely dishonest to do anything else. And as far as this comment:

"at the same time I don't want to lose him or hurt him, I like him a lot. what if I can't find another man who loves me more or is better than him?"

You sound too young to be dating. Totally immature.

[lyzzard]

I think I would tell him how I felt about him but that I would like to have an open relationship for right now (dating others, no sex/kissing). My brother did this with a woman, eventually dated her exclusively, and then they moved in together. Of course a couple years later they split, but you just never really know.

If he respects you he may agree. He also may not like it and/or do something unexpected. It's always a risk in a relationship, but it's better to be upfront than keep it all in.

[Twinkle Toes]

Wow! Nothing like having your cake and eating it too.

Tell him the truth. Tell him you really like him, but that you aren't ready for a committment. Tell him you want to see him AND see other people. If you lose him ... oh well.

[Mongohateswinter]

Break up & call him when you get into High School.....

[temptation001]

Just tell him that its too soon to see where you and him are heading and that you want to keep your options open till he has convinced you that hes the one.

[yankeegirl313]

If your not happy...move on!