I may have made the biggest mistake of my life (married, guy)

[Sweetlady71]

i feel for you, been there, done that. we all have had bad relationships, and we all get depressed, but one day we wake up and realize that those bad relationships is what makes us stronger, it prepares us to really see and be ready for the good relationship that will come. we have to learn from our pain and let it help us grow stronger.
this will pass.....you just need to get up, look in the mirror, and remind yourself that you are better then him, he is the loser, not you, and remind yourself that karma will come and kick him in the butt someday....but YOU need to not let HIM win....you need to shake it off...move on with your life, and smile in the fact that he didnt win, you did. and if you do find out your pregant, realize this, the timin may be bad, but its not the babies fault....it doesnt have to be a painfull memory of him, look at it like this....you will have gotten the best part of him. good luck and big hugzzzz

[STT Resident]

If you ARE pregnant you don't have to stay pregnant.

[andreaspercheron]

Why don't you just go ahead and end it all, do yourself a favor and just do whatever you need to do to check out of this world. Why are you bothering asking for help if you have it all figured out? ----- Does this sound like something nice to say? NOOO of course not, so why would you say something stupid like you just want to end it all!!?

Get your butt out of bed, take the pregnancy test and find out first if you ARE pregnant, then if you're not, then pull yourself together and figure out what you are going to do next. IF you ARE pregnant, then you need to decide what you are going to do about the baby, either abort, raise it, or give it up for adoption and yes I know there are going to be people who are totally raising their eyebrows now but you know what? This poor woman fell for a man who has been lying to her and now she might be pregnant, obviously it's not an ideal situation for a child to be raised and we have enough broken home kids as it is.

Listen you fell in love, you can't help yourself but you know what? You now know the truth and you have to be strong and get through it, no one can do it for you.

[CESpeed]

Yes you feel badly right now. But please think about it, is he really worth it? You can reverse what has been done. Go back where you came from.

I agree that the first thing you need to do is find out if you are pregnant.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by crazy tragic

I feel like ending it all, ending all the pain, i don't want to wake up. I just relocated to find out the man I relocated for is living with another woman and has been lying to me. I know i'm not going to get much sympathy from people here who are aware of my history that's not what I'm here for. i'm just tired of crying and lying in bed and have not been out of my condo for 2 days. I thought i knew him but I don't and i can't believe I allowed myself to be sucked in to this mess. it even gets worse.I have had a pregnancy testing kit still in the bag in my kitchen and I cant make myself take the test because i'm afraid of the results. i've been sleeping day and night on and off. i'm scared and hurt.

You need to have a friend come over and be with you immediately. Please don't end it all. This will all pass.

We cannot give up if it is always raining. It will soon pass and the sun WILL come out again.

[thorpe]

We have all experienced bad relationships. Time will make it better. Please find someone to talk to....

[ExPit]

I notice Crazy/tragic hasn't checked back in. I hope she's ok.

[crossing over]

The biggest mistake would've been to not walk away.
Now that you did, (well done), you only need to take the damn test because most of the times fear of something is greater that the outcome.

After that, move on to step 3: do what everybody here knows has to be done - the talking, reaching out, getting yourself out of the apartment at all costs.

Time will do the rest.

Each day gone by will be your own little victory over the whole mess.

[PassTheChocolate]

Everyone (except Killer, as usual) has given you great advice.

Remember that happiness is the best revenge. Better revenge than that, not caring if he knows it.

[crazy tragic]

I didn't end it and my baby is due in November. My lover and the father if the child went the other way but I have got close to an old friend who is taking care of me. I guess you can call him a sugar daddy of sorts. I have also relocated to California where he lives and will have the baby here. Life is looking good. Thank you for you concern and the pm I got from a very kind lady.