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Jaysus, not another cheating thread! Haven't we done this issue to death? People cheat. That's just the way it is. Get rid of civil marriage, let people be with whomever they'd like and you won't have "cheaters" anymore. Sound good?
Another one of these threads huh. Ok well I will be the odd man out again. Fact is a good portion of people who cheat end up doing so after having formed an emotional connection with someone outside their marriage. I fit in this category. I would have told you there is no way I would cheat prior to finding myself sad, lonely(while married), feeling like I was the problem. I met a woman who became a great freind and confidant. After a year and a half of being friends we took it further.
No not everyone who cheats is just about getting laid. This is such a narrow minded attitude. I hope none of you ever find yourselves in a marriage that is so twisted you seek the support of someone else. Open your eyes and see that cheating is not like ink or a blank page.
All of that being said I do not condone cheating. I regret the loss of a friend when I ended the affair. Ending the affair was/is one of the most difficult things I have ever done. I agree there is a difference but not an excuse.
~Boneheaded~
The victim is not just the jilted spouse. All of the people involved are victims, if only of their own choices.
If you were depressed and confused and upset it is not as bad as if you went out and cheated because you wanted to get laid.
I say makes no difference. Cheating is cheating.
Well I agree that there are degrees to cheating AND that there are minute differences to me with regard to the motivation behind it however I don't think there's ever a "get out of jail free card" for it. I also agree with you, cheating is cheating and whatever the circumstances it's painful and relationship destroying. IF a person cheated because they were confused and upset and depressed and they knew it was a one off and, worked out fairly quickly, completely the wrong way to go about sorting out their problems I have to wonder why they'd bother hurting their partner by ever telling what they'd done. My personal view is if it really is a one off and you truly love your partner and know it would devestate them then make sure it is a one off and you take your indiscretion to the grave. Why compound it by hurting the person you truly love with the extent of your poor impulse control?
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Get rid of civil marriage, let people be with whomever they'd like and you won't have "cheaters" anymore. Sound good?
My personal view is if it really is a one off and you truly love your partner and know it would devestate them then make sure it is a one off and you take your indiscretion to the grave. Why compound it by hurting the person you truly love with the extent of your poor impulse control?
