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My ex recently emailed me saying he misses me, misses talking to me and that I will always have a unique and special place in his heart. Why do that? I think he's just trying to make himself feel better. He met someone else around the time of our breakup (so he claims). I replied to say I'm glad he's doing well and that we should give each other space. In any case, he should be completely faithful to the one he chose, and that I'm doing really well. Did I sound bitter? If it helps, I really meant it.
How long have you two been broken up? Sometimes someone will linger positively in your mind, especially if it was an amicable breakup. I feel a little sadness when I see something that reminds me of a girl I once dated, but its not necessarily a bad feeling. More like nostalgia.
I doubt he meant anything "concrete" by it. Sometimes there's no agenda behind it and it's sincere. Nice what you wrote back, by the way.
I don't think that you sounded bitter.. I think that you sounded like you weren't ready to be "buddies" with him yet which is perfectly acceptable.. Hopefully he respects that. I think that if he keeps contacting you, he's either going to try to complicate things.. or he wants to string you along. BEWARE!
When my ex said " You will always be a special person in my heart", I thought " What the hell does that even matter? Is that supposed to make me feel better somehow? Well it doesn't." If he knows I meant cr*ap to him, then don't say stupid **** like I'm some kind of idiot who will always remember him as the guy who " has a special place in his heart for me".
He probably just wants me to tell my friends he was a great guy even though he couldn't get his lies straight. Probably hoping to date one of them or something. Or maybe he wants to run for mayor. WTF.
I agree with Temptation (sorry, kid, can't rep you again). This is just one of those totally meaningless things people love to say after a break-up in order to feel magnanimous. (And that's assuming the best about the person who says it. There are always those narcissists who like to bait their exes with crap like this and watch them go into a meltdown; sometimes they even invite their new squeeze to watch.) "Unique and special place"? Yah, just not unique or special enough to still have a relationship. No one is obligated to carry on a relationship in which he is not happy, but saying disingenuous things like this makes you a douche. Have a clean and honest break-up, and don't say stupid things that are so clearly belied by your conduct.
The way to handle such a situation is either not to respond at all, or to send a friendly but cool reply containing an unmistakable p***-off hint. The OP, I believe, did it just the right way.
Curiousity. Testing the waters. Delete it and move on.
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