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Well right now I'm in this situation, my (ex) so has not yet her own flat so she is stayingas a roommate, and I wanted to bring an escort girl home and I just can't it's frustrating (I don't want to pay a hotel room for that )
Hmm.....I don't think this is very good idea at all.
I forsee trouble times ahead. Although I totally understand wanting
the conveince of the arrangement, I think you would have to decide at some
point what is more important to you, the convenient arrangement or living peacfully without akwardness in your own home and/or walking on egg shells.
What's the point of going through a divorce if you're not actually getting rid of the spouse? I'm not trying to be mean here but I just don't get it!
And, no, if I were dating a man who invited me over to his home and there was his ex-wife, I would be SO out of there! It just screams, THERE is MAJOR DRAMA potential here! Who needs that?!
If you were interested in a married woman who became divorced, yet decided to keep her spouse as a roommate, would you bother going out with her or would you think there is something inappropriate about her living arrangement?
if someone is still living with their ex,
then NO i would not date them in a million years
and YES there is something screamingly inappropriate about it
with about a million HUGE red flags waving all over the place in terms of warning do not go there
it's sort of like the same reason at some point, you don't date someone who is still living at home with their parents (i'm talking a grown-up adult, not a young person working towards independence), because it indicates they don't have their sh*t together enough to structure their own life that is independent, and they are still INVOLVED WITH THEIR EX
which means to me, i don't want to date someone who is still that tied to and involved with their ex.
and i ran into this at one point, nice guy, getting to know each other, then he lets me know his "housemates" are actually his ex and her daughter. Yikes. I was out of there in no time flat.
Actually, I did date a gal who let her stbx move back in for awhile. He was to live in the basement. He didn't stay there, and he didn't stay out of her business. It was a mess. I wouldn't do it again.
Actually, I did date a gal who let her stbx move back in for awhile. He was to live in the basement. He didn't stay there, and he didn't stay out of her business. It was a mess. I wouldn't do it again.
I went through this too. I was assured that everything was discussed, agreed upon, sealed and sworn. Still the poor loser kept popping in sight now and then, giving looks and noises, even daring to ask dumb questions like "hey guys, what's going on..." Once it came just that close to a fistfight after which he moved out but the damage was already done...
because of hard economic times and we have a dog (my dog) that we love like a child, I also have cats and he helps me when I am at working caring for them and taking the dog to the park so I don't have to feel guilty about not doing so. (Not at all a fan of exercise)
He also stays because it is close to his job, I am happy to get the help with the yard work and extra money. We actually get along a lot better now that we know we're getting divorced. I don't care what he does so Im not stressed out about it. (Comes home late, maybe he's gambing, I don't care, he can open a credit card and max it out once we're divorced for all I care.) He's rather room with me than someone from his work. I am good to live with.
Your response to JustJulia did not sound to me like if you were looking for advise from anyone in the first place. You have already made up your mind on the living arrangement, you seem to be one of those people that don't learn from other people's mistakes, you learn the hard way or don't learn anything at all....Knowing this then go ahead do it, go for it, then when the situation gets sticky start another thread on the experience.
Um, here goes...the gal I'm currently dating still lives with her ex. Not going into the whole scenario but basically it's splitting the house and helps with the kids. They'd been emotionally separated for a long time and divorced for a while.
She was upfront about it, the situation is reasonable, so I have no issues. We only hang out at my place but thats because we haven't reached the point where we want to get kids involved. So for now, we date and hang out etc. and it's fine with me.
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I'm not trying to be mean here but I just don't get it!
