i need more friends... how do i get out there and find them? (women, love)

[oleo]

broke up with the gf and made the mistake of making her my best friend...

i went out last night with some friends/coworkers and had a blast!

tonight is another story...sitting at home alone, i'm on my second movie...

first was mothman prophecies and now nacho libre!

it's always late at night when i feel alone....

i've already called all my really close friends (they are all 2 hours away from me though) and i called my sister and my mom. just to chat...

i'm doing a good job not calling the X. It has been about a week.

sigh....

Anyone have any tips on getting out there and meeting new people, and not just women?

or if you guys want to chat with me, ill be on here while watching tv

thanks.

[Huckleberry3911948]

be alone. become your best friend. dont expose yourself anymore to bad company.
people hate the big empty but in it you gain clarity and healing.

[my54ford]

go to church tommorow... It's good for you and the there are lots of friendly people to meet............

[oleo]

yeah...i've started

-being better organized
-taking more time to eat healthy and take care of myself
-focusing more about my work and job and feeling good about my work
-started thinking about what i want and don't want in life

i use to think i couldn't be alone...i cried for a few days i was so miserable,
but i am still healing

maybe i should do some volunteer work or something

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

be alone. become your best friend. dont expose yourself anymore to bad company.
people hate the big empty but in it you gain clarity and healing.

This is spot on. You need to learn to love your own company before you can be good company for someone else. Take the time now...and find your own groove. There is so much in life to enjoy that does not require anything other than your own self.

[qjane82]

Originally Posted by oleo

maybe i should do some volunteer work or something

That and/or take a class in something you're interested in- cooking, wine, digital photography etc. Don't be surprise if you find a lot more women in such classes than men.

[Mr.Cat]

You don't need friends! You need to get yourself together and move on. Friends will come as you go.

[WyoNewk]

Originally Posted by qjane82

That and/or take a class in something you're interested in- cooking, wine, digital photography etc. Don't be surprise if you find a lot more women in such classes than men.

Very good idea, and cooking, wine and photography classes would all be excellent ones for meeting people, in addition to being good subjects to learn more about.

[samston]

talk. with people online, or in the grocery store, or in the park, the gym, the subway (i mean an underground railway, but the food shop counts as well ), or anywhere people are.

talk to strike up rapport with people, and this is the major step in getting friends.

[artsyguy]

The problem with classes is that they breed stress and competition and do not make good atmospheres for making new friendships .

Originally Posted by WyoNewk

Very good idea, and cooking, wine and photography classes would all be excellent ones for meeting people, in addition to being good subjects to learn more about.