Stroking a man's...

[20yrsinBranson]

Originally Posted by Chanteuse d' Opéra

ego...haha, this is a totally PG13 thread! Basically, my friends & I were talking today about how they (well 2 girlfriends) were saying how they'd never tell their boyfriends they were handsome/cute but another friend & I were saying how it's good to "stroke" a man's ego...she said in a way it reaffirms their masculinity & self-confidence.

If a guy tells me I'm cute & I think he's handsome, then I'll let him know in a *flirty* way but one friend told me I was crazy for doing that, because if it didn't end well...then, he'd still go on thinking he was cute regardless all because *I* said it...

Did that make sense? Ladies, do you tell your SO he's cute or *reaffirm his self-confidence* in other ways? What's wrong w/ that?

Are these girls married? Have they EVER had a serious relationship? Please! Of course you tell a man that he is handsome, smart, capable, hard working, a good provider, a great listener, a good friend, a great cook, *and * awesome in the sack.

What on earth are they thinking? You are never going to have a successful realtionship if you don't praise your partner to the skies. Too m any women don't understand this concept at all. Small wonder the divorce rate is 50 percent.

Do yourself a favor and ignore your "friends". Complimenting a man on his good qualities is the best way to keep him happy with your clothes on.

LOL

20yrsinBranson

[thriftylefty]

Complement him on his parallel parking and keep doing it all they into the restaurant.
1. Wow you did that in only one try!
2. There must be only a few inches to spare!
3. I saw people watching you they were amazed!

He‘ll definitely let you order the most expensive thing on the menu.

[2mares]

I definately compliment my SO if it is true and heart felt.

My stbx a.k.a. Princess, needed to be complimented all the time or would get his panties in a bunch. "Sweetie, you are soo handsome, did you lose weight, your sexy, what a tan, you can do anything, blah blah blah". In that situation I became a little resentful having to constantly stroke his ego.

[IZthe411]

I don't mind telling her. It's more about her reaction to what I say. I'd rather get the surprised 'thank you' over some 'you know you like this' or something like that.

[Lynda05125]

Originally Posted by killer2021

The same rule applies to men complimenting women, never do it.

If anything use backhanded compliments. Which are compliments that sound like a compliment but in reality are insulting her. Something a long the lines of, "That dress does wonders for your figure."

The last thing you want is the female you are banging having a high self-confidence. She'll start to think, "Why am I with this loser, I can do better."

Originally Posted by killer2021

Healthy, strong relationship? Tell me when you figure out that one out. I've given up. In fact I am convinced that such an existence does not exist. One partner will ultimately always remain unhappy due to a loss of freedom.

You don't get into a long term relationship if you want freedom
People that want to be together are not worried about their freedom.
So to give a compliment to someone you’re dating is not going to make them say
“Ummm I am so good looking cause killer told me so that I can do better.
Well my be in your case it might after she finds out you are a male
Gigolo and that you are a pig she will know with out any compliment
from you to RUN!!!!!!

[Chanteuse d' Opéra]

Originally Posted by 20yrsinBranson

Are these girls married? Have they EVER had a serious relationship? Please! Of course you tell a man that he is handsome, smart, capable, hard working, a good provider, a great listener, a good friend, a great cook, *and * awesome in the sack.

What on earth are they thinking? You are never going to have a successful realtionship if you don't praise your partner to the skies. Too m any women don't understand this concept at all. Small wonder the divorce rate is 50 percent.

Do yourself a favor and ignore your "friends". Complimenting a man on his good qualities is the best way to keep him happy with your clothes on.

LOL

20yrsinBranson

If I could give this the best post in this thread. I would give it two thumbs up

[orangeapple]

Originally Posted by Public_Newsense

I never had a problem telling my guy when I think he looks hot, as it should be. I don't do it to stroke his ego. I say it when I mean it.

Agreed....why must there be some hidden agenda....

And if his ego gets inflated from occasional compliments and he starts to think he is god's gift to women and too good for you, then he probably had issues to begin with.

[thriftylefty]

I think we men need praise and women need attention, But you really got to know the guy to know what he is proud of.