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If my future wife gained over 15 pounds then then I would slap her with divorce papers so fast that she would not know what hit her.
People can call me shallow or any other name in the book. I really dont care. It is DISGUSTING
Of course it will be excused during pregnancy and a couple of months directly afterwards
If you think 15 pounds is grounds for divorce, you might as well prepare yourself to divorce any and every woman you marry. Nearly anyone above 40 would be ecstatic if their spouse gained only 15 pounds.
Gosh, I hope you don't ever lose your job...or become sick...or have to take medication that makes you fat or bald...in such a shallow marriage your "future wife" (I feel sorry for her already) should have every justification for leaving you behind...no?
(In a loving marriage, you both TRY to stay attractive for the other, but no one can stay young and gorgeous forever.)
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Wow, the vows of matrimony would be really deep in your case....
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Hey...with that attitude...good luck finding a wife. No selfrespecting woman is going to put up with you, unless she's in a comatose state. Yuck !
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Ahem. Assuming you are in NYC, it would interest you to know that New York is a strict "fault" state, and that weight gain is not a valid ground for divorce here. You might want to move to a more shallow-friendly jurix.
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Hey, he is allowing her up to 15 lbs. during a pregnancy, sure hope she dosent get stretch marks.
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Good luck with that. I hope she gets those divorce papers and takes your superficial butt to the cleaners.
Or better yet, I hope you don't ever get married. There are a lot more important things out there than weight.
People are taking what I said the wrong way because it all depends on the curcumstances
If they gained weight because of pregnancy or medical conditions then it is fine.
However, if they gained weight because they are lazy, want to stuff their face with food without going to the gym then its not ok.
I am not attracted to someone that is 20 pounds overweight already and plans on stuffing their face with a pizza and a bowl of ice cream for dessert.
IMO, their is know reason why ANYONE in the U.S. should be overweight unless for a medical condition or pregnancy.
If more people were as harsh as me then maybe 1 out of five people in the U.S. would not be obese. Those numbers are not even including the ones that are overweight.
Everything that I just said goes both ways. Ladies, if your husband is stuffing his face with bad foods and is overweight then say something. Trust me it goes for men too.
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Wow that is harsh. But I cant put you down for it. I feel the same way about long hair. I like women with very very long hair down to their azz. So I found me one with red hair down that far. I have told her for the 5 years we been together that she can do anything she wants including being with other men. I dont care but if she cuts her hair then bye bye. Nothing more manly then a boys haircuts on women.
The fat thing? Despite what men say in public, in private most men prefer a bigger woman. Not a woman with more rolls then Mario's Bakery but just nice and ummmmmmm plump.
It might be harsh. However, many people agree they just dont have the guts to say it.
I have been getting rep points all day from that post
People are taking what I said the wrong way because it all depends on the curcumstances
If they gained weight because of pregnancy or medical conditions then it is fine.
However, if they gained weight because they are lazy, want to stuff their face with food without going to the gym then its not ok.
I am not attracted to someone that is 20 pounds overweight already and plans on stuffing their face with a pizza and a bowl of ice cream for dessert.
IMO, their is know reason why ANYONE in the U.S. should be overweight unless for a medical condition or pregnancy.
If more people were as harsh as me then maybe 1 out of five people in the U.S. would not be obese. Those numbers are not even including the ones that are overweight.
Everything that I just said goes both ways. Ladies, if your husband is stuffing his face with bad foods and is overweight then say something. Trust me it goes for men too.
It's one thing to be sexually turned off by an overweight spouse, another thing to divorce them over a 15 lb weight gain (btw, gaining 15 lbs doesn't make everyone overweight....I am quite thin and would still be well within the healthy range with another 15 lbs).
If your spouse is not taking care of themselves physically and is over-indulging in food, then you should be concerned with the underlying issue, which is probably something like major stress, depression &/or low self-worth. Concern, not judgment should be your response.
You really think that being critical and harsh is going to help? A compassionate approach is going to be far more effective. Your opinion here is indicative of your entire attitude to approaching problems in a relationship, which is what will really lead to a divorce for you, not excess weight in your future wife (god help any poor woman who holds that title).
It's one thing to be sexually turned off by an overweight spouse, another thing to divorce them over a 15 lb weight gain (btw, gaining 15 lbs doesn't make everyone overweight....I am quite thin and would still be well within the healthy range with another 15 lbs).
If your spouse is not taking care of themselves physically and is over-indulging in food, then you should be concerned with the underlying issue, which is probably something like major stress, depression &/or low self-worth. Concern, not judgment should be your response.
You really think that being critical and harsh is going to help? A compassionate approach is going to be far more effective. Your opinion here is indicative of your entire attitude to approaching problems in a relationship, which is what will really lead to a divorce for you, not excess weight in your future wife (god help any poor woman who holds that title).
1. Why would i be sexually attracted to a women that is overweight?
The lack of physical attraction will lead to other problems in the marriage
2. Well, they need to SNAP out of that depression and we will drive to the gym together
3. I would give a compassionate approach to my wife. I was just giving a harsh approach to the citydata viewers. I am not married to anyone on this website.
You are right! I do have a bad attitude. I set standards for myself and the people around me.
It's obvious you're young and you believe your metabolism and lifestyle are going to stay the same throughout your entire life. Everyone who was young thought the same thing. Then the realities of life hit them and their waistlines. It will happen to you too, and to your wife. You may not become obese, but you will gain weight. So will your wife. And you'll certainly stop being so smug about weight gain.
Well if I got grossly overweight and my hubby saw me with no enthusiasm, I would give him the divorce papers in a new york minute. I would be happier without the insults and he would be happy with someone thinner. Win/win.
So I found me one with red hair down that far. I have told her for the 5 years we been together that she can do anything she wants including being with other men. I dont care but if she cuts her hair then bye bye. Nothing more manly then a boys haircuts on women.
I pray she never gets sick and has to undergo chemotherapy.
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sure hope she dosent get stretch marks.
