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Old 04-21-2009, 04:00 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Default She doesn't seem to get that it is over.

So most of you already know I am going through a nasty divorce. On friday we will be legally separated. She calls me on the way home.. early BTW, and says "What are we doing tonight?" I told her the kids are showered, home work is done, dinner will be ready when she gets here. After we eat with the boys I am going out so that she can have the house to herself. To be honest I am tired of fighting so I can't be around her.

She gets flipping mad and tells me "What you don't want to spend time with me?" Aaaahhh no. I don't thus the divorce. I swear she is mental. She started sobbing saying she will change she will do therapy. All of this after trying to ruin my business. After all the bitter crap spewed from her mouth.

Is mine the only one that flip flops back and for with the wind?

Is it just denial?
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:02 PM
 
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Its not that she doesn't get it. She is trying to get you to stay with her so that she can continue to hurt you even more. Don't go for it. Its over you are doing the right thing.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
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It's just a stage, man.. Stick with it, and be nice, but firm about it.. Eventually, it will hit her and she'll stop the fish out of water routine. FWIW, I went through the same thing when my exwife left me.

EDIT:Edited against my better judgement.. i'd hate to offend anyone with thin skin

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Old 04-21-2009, 04:05 PM
 
Location: Texas
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For about two seconds I feel really poopy about being like this. I have just fallen for the poor me routine too many times.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Bone, if you're truly over her then move on. Don't be swayed by her tantrums.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:16 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I dunno, dude. There are some things you can excuse and others you can't. When someone turns evil and spiteful, it's hard to go back from there. Once they cross that line, it's easier for them to cross it again.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:27 PM
 
Location: USA
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Boneheaded, maybe your ex and my hubby should get together. They could have a pity party!
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:30 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Hahahaha yeah for sure. Lets set them up on a blind date. They share sex drives and would be perfect together.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:50 PM
 
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Hi Boneheaded - I don't know the details of your situation (new to this) but it sounds like you two are still living together. If so, my advice would be to get your own place quickly - it would make things much easier and help drive home the fact that you're done (if you truly are). She's trying to hang on to you and if you really want to end it, make yourself less available to her. If you move, you will only have to see/talk to her when it concerns the kids.
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Old 04-21-2009, 04:58 PM
 
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Hi Boneheaded - I don't know the details of your situation (new to this) but it sounds like you two are still living together. If so, my advice would be to get your own place quickly - it would make things much easier and help drive home the fact that you're done (if you truly are). She's trying to hang on to you and if you really want to end it, make yourself less available to her. If you move, you will only have to see/talk to her when it concerns the kids.
If he's the one that filed for divorce (it sounds like he did) why would he move out of his own house?
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