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I find it to be a pretty unattractive habit. While I would never write someone off completely because they smoke, it'd be a bit of a deal-breaker early on.
Furthermore, I'd think it was pretty dumb if my GF started smoking... She's never really smoked, so why start now, pushing 30?
So I don't really see myself being in that situation. If she did start smoking, I wouldn't love her any less, but I would worry about why she'd decided to start smoking.
I dated and married a smoker. Will never do that again. It wasn't the only thing that killed my love for him though, but a good part of it.
I also prefer to not work with people that smoke. They always seem to need to duck off several times a work shift to go have a cigarette. It makes me feel that they get more work breaks than I do, but I don't need them. So my perception is that my smoking co-workers are not working as much as the rest of us non-smokers.
2. If your spouse was not a smoker and then started after marriage would it lead to problems in the marriage?
I would not date much less marry someone who's a smoker. If he starts after the marriage and that's the ONLY major problem then I'll compromise. If he lied about it and we're married then the lying would be more of an issue than the smoking.
I would not date much less marry someone who's a smoker. If he starts after the marriage and that's the ONLY major problem then I'll compromise. If he lied about it and we're married then the lying would be more of an issue than the smoking.
This happened to me. My ex-husband never smoked around me while we dated. In fact, I can't even remember smelling any smoke on him, but I'm sure if I did, he would have said it was the guys he works with and their smoke got on him. Anyway, he didn't let me know he was a smoker (or a winger, for that matter) until after we were married. Then he laid down the law to me - "I smoke, and I smoke in the house - this includes the bedroom." I was so young and stupid back then!
Meh...He don`t like it, but he likes something else more, therefore...he puts up with it!
He knew I smoked, when we got together....if he didn`t like it then, then he should have said,"no."
I wouldn't date a smoker or marry one. If my wife suddenly decided to smoke, we'd get a divorce.
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