Do you only like to go for/consider one group of people when dating? (non-black, how to)

[samston]

Originally Posted by miu

Hey, everyone is entitled to have their preferences and have a mental image of their perfect partner. And I really only entered this thread to suggest that samston never come out and say that he's only attracted to Indian women. I feel that it should be kept an inner thought.

I am just going by my conversations with other Asian women and discussing how we felt about dating non-Asian guys. For some reason, we all felt a lot better about dating a guy whose past girlfriends all looked different. We all agreed that if a non-Asian guy had only ex girlfriends that were Asian, we'd rather not date him. It just seemed creepy. Keep in mind, the Asian women that I talked to about this issue were American born Asian women. So we don't talk or act like Asian women that were born overseas. For us, we feel that when a non-Asian wants to date an Asian woman, he is looking for the whole Asian female package of traditional style of dressing, being feminine and deferential to her man. And none of us are very demure or deferential to our menfolk.

The other aspect to a non-Asian man wanting to date an Asian is a guy that's into the Japanese car scene and would like his own " Japanese umbrella girl" as a girlfriend. Sort of being the ultimate JDM accessory for his Hot Import Nights show car. Or the guy that's into some sort of Asian martial arts and has a thing for Asian culture.

Maybe an overseas born Asian woman won't care that her non-Asian s/o has a thing for Asian women. But American born Asian women are touchier about this sort of thing.

Maybe Indian women don't care about this sort of thing.

well for me, it's not about stereotypes. I try not to stereotype anybody.

for me, it's about aesthetics, which I said (IMO) it's no different from only dating blondes or brunettes.

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Please don't call us Caucasians as that word sounds like some type of communicable disease. j/k

White dude works just as well.

LOL....very well then.

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by samston

If a person only considers one group of people when dating, is this being too exclusive, or is it just a person's right to do so?

I don't normally do this, but I am going to answer this without reading any of the answers that have come before mine.

If there is ANY realm where any human being has the "right" to choose what they want, regardless of the rhyme or reason (within the confines of the law, of course), it is in choosing a romantic partner.

I date white men. If I'm shutting out the majority of the world's population with my choice, so be it. If I miss out on millions of "great guys", then that's my problem...and my problem only. It is absolutely my right and choice, and no one else's, who I choose to let into my life in this way.

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

What's up with all of the love for the white boys.

Kind of odd since It seems like the media and society likes to bash the "evil" white man.

Not all white boys are evil. Just the politicians.

[miu]

Originally Posted by samston

well for me, it's not about stereotypes. I try not to stereotype anybody.

for me, it's about aesthetics, which I said (IMO) it's no different from only dating blondes or brunettes.

I really don't care why you prefer to only date Indian women, all I was suggesting was that you not tell them that it was their nationality which was the initial spark of interest for you. That's all I'm saying here. After all, YOU are the one having problems getting a girlfriend.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

Not all white boys are evil. Just the politicians.

You can probably add CEO's as well.

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

What's up with all of the love for the white boys.

Kind of odd since It seems like the media and society likes to bash the "evil" white man.

I've dated the a couple of evil white men. Equal opportunity.

[MrSykes]

Originally Posted by samston

If a person only considers one group of people when dating, is this being too exclusive, or is it just a person's right to do so?

Of course it's their right to do so, but it's not their right to discourage anyone else from doing so.

[MrSykes]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

its a question that comes up a great deal on CDF from the AA community. interracial dating and who you "should be" dating..
btw your profile is blank. keeping cultural and racial purity of identity is a big big issue in the AA community. it is a significant subject for many landmark AA films.

Not more so than Indians. They are the absolute least likely to consider dating out, much less exogamy.

[MrSykes]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

What's up with all of the love for the white boys.

Kind of odd since It seems like the media and society likes to bash the "evil" white man.

It's not odd, just goes to show you that you have very little to complain about in terms of being demonized, esp by women.