Monday morning surgery. (wife, man, love, husband)

[sueprnova]

Have you had your spouse/so had major surgery? I don't know how I should feel. My husbands Doc/surgeon is the head of the dept...
I'm obviously not going to work day 0(surgery day) but I need to go to work until he is released....
So, do I go see him before/after work? he already said not to worry about him just do work/home/dogs...like usual....
Actually I am just trying to stay sane...I love this man beyond belief...
Hopefully this is just a localized issue...and hasn't spread...oh..they're taking 1/3 of 1/2 of his lung out....he has a spot. They don't know what it is....so...
Out damn Spot....

[SeaOfGrass]

Originally Posted by sueprnova

Have you had your spouse/so had major surgery? I don't know how I should feel. My husbands Doc/surgeon is the head of the dept...
I'm obviously not going to work day 0(surgery day) but I need to go to work until he is released....
So, do I go see him before/after work? he already said not to worry about him just do work/home/dogs...like usual....
Actually I am just trying to stay sane...I love this man beyond belief...
Hopefully this is just a localized issue...and hasn't spread...oh..they're taking 1/3 of 1/2 of his lung out....he has a spot. They don't know what it is....so...
Out damn Spot....

I'm just trying to understand, they did a biopsy but they're still not sure of what they're dealing with? How long is he supposed to stay? Out damned spot, indeed.

It's obvious you guys are close, so I'm sure he'd love you to be there as much as you could during this time, even if he's too manly to say so. I'm sure you'll do as much as you can. Like I said, I don't have much info on this situation. I truly wish you both the absolute best of outcomes. I'm sure you'll check in, but I'll get back to you in either case. We've dealt with this in our family/friends, as have many people, and it's often a positive outcome. We're with you...

[shania]

I agree that you should try to be there as much as possible. He's going to need your support, and if you're there, that way the doctor can talk to you both when he makes rounds. Can someone watch your dogs for you, or come by and feed and walk them for you? When you can't be there, is there any other family that might stop in and see him?

I wish you and your husband all the best. It sounds like he's in good hands and everything should work out for the best. I wish your husband a speedy recovery.

[sueprnova]

No biopsy because of where it's positioned and also cause "Spot" is small...
If it's nothing more than initially thought he'll be in the hospital for a few days....then home. He will be sore....but up and around.
He's taking advantage of all his sick time and taking an additional week off....so he can finish a coding project he has as a side job
He's still mostly freaked out about the catheter

[SeaOfGrass]

Originally Posted by sueprnova

No biopsy because of where it's positioned and also cause "Spot" is small...
If it's nothing more than initially thought he'll be in the hospital for a few days....then home. He will be sore....but up and around.
He's taking advantage of all his sick time and taking an additional week off....so he can finish a coding project he has as a side job
He's still mostly freaked out about the catheter

I have to say, that's pretty funny, he's mostly worried about the catheter.

Catheters are survivable. Chow would probably say, "Ain't no thing but a chicken wing."

Seriously, our thoughts are with you. Definitely keep us posted.

[Tropical Trouble]

I would say spend as much time with him as you can. Sure, if he'll be in the hospital for several days you should eventually go back to work, but visit before you go and as soon as you get off work. If the hospital is close, go over on your (long) lunch hour as well.

My uncle just had the same surgery and is doing well (he also had radiation and chemo). Supposedly they checked the edges of what they cut out and there was no cancer. I hope your hubby gets the same results.

[CESpeed]

I agree with Tropical Trouble. If you have to, take sick days to be there as much as possible. I'll be praying for your and your husband. I know it's routine, but it never hurts.

[WestCobb]

Good luck, nova. Try to get some rest tonight. Eat as heartily as you can today and tomorrow. Your husband is fortunate to have a wife who loves him.

Originally Posted by sueprnova

Have you had your spouse/so had major surgery? I don't know how I should feel. My husbands Doc/surgeon is the head of the dept...
I'm obviously not going to work day 0(surgery day) but I need to go to work until he is released....
So, do I go see him before/after work? he already said not to worry about him just do work/home/dogs...like usual....
Actually I am just trying to stay sane...I love this man beyond belief...
Hopefully this is just a localized issue...and hasn't spread...oh..they're taking 1/3 of 1/2 of his lung out....he has a spot. They don't know what it is....so...
Out damn Spot....

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by sueprnova

I'm obviously not going to work day 0(surgery day) but I need to go to work until he is released....
So, do I go see him before/after work? he already said not to worry about him just do work/home/dogs...like usual....

I concur with others who suggest you should go see him. He will be thinking of you and he on your mind constantly. He's being a typical guy: "I'm tough. Don't worry about me., etc." But I agree that you should go see him. And please let us know how things go...

[sierraAZ]

Hope everything goes well with your hubby's surgery and he has a speedy recovery, sueprnova. I'm with the others, too - don't listen to him telling you not to visit much. You, guys, are so lucky having each other!