Need some advice please (dating, boyfriend, girlfriend, women)

[BurtsBees]

Let me give a little background info on us. Im 22 and shes 19. We've been dating for a year and 3 months so far. Had alot of great times, we love each other alot but theres been some ups and downs (mainly her). For instance, one time at work, I had to help a stuck lady in the parking lot. No, she wasn't attractive or anything, but its a dark place at 10pm and no place for a woman with no cell phone. I just helped jump start the car and that was it. Girlfriend pitched a fit, ask why do I have to be nice and help others, and if I felt that that woman was more important than her. Thought that was ridiculous, but moved on.

Over time, she began to get really emotional around that time of the month. She'd get depressed, and send me texts saying I deserve better, she treats me horribly, etc. Next day, she's fine as can be. Later on, she got mad because I was at a funeral for too long and didn't leave early enough to spend time with her. We literally spend every day together. Well, we used to. Lately she's been hanging out more with her girlfriend, and now that I got her a dog, my attention has been cut in half. Only time I see her is helping her with homework and then on Friday nights. She'll invite the girlfriend over, her cousin, and cook for them, while she never asks me to come over. A bit unfair.

Here comes the killer part. Friday, we spent the day together. Everything is normal; went out to eat, and then to see Fighting (movie). After the movie, while walking to the car, we chatted about taking defense classes. I said I know of a friend who takes em and fights like a biatch, meaning he fights good. She took offense to the word, and don't ask me why because she is the biggest cusser ever, and backfisted my solarplexus. I immediately lost my breath and keeled over, and used my right hand to push her away. I didnt push hard, but just enough reflex for my body to say WTF? She walked to the car as I was keeling over. I regained my composure a minute later and got to the car. I was like what was that about? SHe didnt say anything and started crying. OOooookk? Are you crying because you hit me? No word. She just said take her home. Todays now Sunday, and she hasn't spoken to me since, but that I "scared her and doesnt wanna see me anymore". Huh? Then her friend texts me, basically says I abused her, I hit her, etc. What? Are you serious? Claims that she was so scared of me, blah blah, that she couldn't even look at me, and that she wants her to break up with me. What the heck is going on? I quickly came to my own defense, stating I never hit her, and never would. Im the least violent guy I know; never been in a fight or anything! It just felt like a big smack in the face, that my character was being crushed.

Anyways, everyone seems to say she's psycho and should just cut all ties from her. This seems logical to me because I don't need that drama in my life! She's very controlling and punches me, scratches and bites me all the time.

I just feel weird as all hell

[PassTheChocolate]

From another thread, cancel that subscription, you don't need her issues. She is wacked and will suck the life out of you.

[steelstress]

So many things wrong here.

She is a GIRL. I don't care that she's 19, she acts like a GIRL. A CHILD. And a damn immature one at that. She's still a teenager, a 15 year old teenager, at that.

She punches you, and now you're being accused of "abusing" her.

Thank your lucky starts she wants to break up. DO. NOT. SEE. HER. AGAIN. Especially if you value your life and freedom. The girlchild is trouble.

Don't get attached anytime soon. You're still very young, and you need to discover that there are much more mature women out there. Take the time to learn who and what they are, not to mention about yourself. But dump this b*tch.

[eyewrist]

This type of person will have you in jail for physical abuse,even though you hadn't done anything. I don't know your carreer plans are but records like that follow you for life and employers may do a background check and see that and you will be unemployable from that day forward.

Since you are young, let me give you some advise. When you date someone always watch a person's behavior; don't correct them; don't response; don't say a WORD. In less than 6 months , maybe up to a year this person will show you there REAL colors. And keep sex out of it; it blurs your vision and you can't see what is really under the radar

[yankeegirl313]

If you don`t want, or need the drama in your life, then you need to tell her to "get!"
She does sound phscho...sorry.

[WestCobb]

Burts, why in the world would you even need advice about this? She must be pretty hot. No worries. The world has plenty of hot, sane girls. You should go find one. If I were you, I'd send a short, curt email (or text) to this girl saying, thanks for the memories... goodbye .. and then never contact her again, no matter how much she pleads and begs you to in the future. (And this drama queen probably will beg you plenty to come back sometime down the road so she can punch you some more.)

[virgode]

That's how it starts be careful....don't want to paint a bad picture here . but next she might be in court getting a restraining order and you'll be telling a judge this story.

[cricket_factor]

It is heartbreaking to hear someone is so selfish that their boyfriend couldn't help a woman out in a dark parking lot with a dead battery and no cellphone.

Then reading about her upset that you were at a funeral too long!

You sound like a real nice, decent guy, I KNOW you are too nice for this disturbed nutcase. Don't jeopardize your future over her. She sounds like she'll lie at the drop of a hat, evidently.

Good luck, and let us know you're OK in the future. This is very disturbing to read.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by WestCobb

Burts, why in the world would you even need advice about this?

I agree. This is cut and dried. She's psycho. Stop all contact and move on.

[BurtsBees]

Thanks everyone, I appreciate you all taking the time to respond. I think you all pretty much summed up what needs to be done.

It just sucks and feels like a kick to the groin. Treated her so well, did SO much for her and to get treated like that. Nice guys seem to finish last sometimes. Working to start my career this summer, so here's to no more drama, and a fresh start