Well Ladies & Gents, It's Happenning To Me (lesbian, cheating, friends)

[M3 Mitch]

Take a look at some of what Fred Reed has posted in his "Fred Columns" (Google him if you don't know him) and you'll see where I got the idea that current American culture does not value the family, but Mexican culture apparently still does. Fred is an expat American (divorced from his previous "gringa" wife[his term, not mine..]) and married now to a Mexican gal. That's not to say that there are no bad marriages in Mexico or good ones north of the border, but the general culture is different, at least if I can believe Fred.

Maybe he can be sort of an example to you, how you can get through the divorce, end up with a good relationship with your kids from the divorce.

[sweetiem4u]

Mr Cat are u still here? im sorry to hear its happening to you....i know it sucks but u can get through this, its not easy, but maybe you will be better off alone for a while. Divorce is a terrible thing to go through, but believe me...its better to go through it than be in an unhappy marriage. Its obvious she is not happy, so just let her go and move on. I went through a divorce and thought i was going to be miserable forever, but its been three years now and i feel so much better and i even met someone who really cares about me and this will happen to u to. eventually...

[Aylalou]

[quote=YBF;8558621]I wouldnt waste my time with looking for the wife of the other man /quote]

No because it's obvious the wife needs a fantasy, so if not this one, maybe that one.

[sueprnova]

I came to the party late...Senor Gato, lo siento...
Just put one foot in front of the other....try to do the next right thing....love your babies with all you have.
I know the email of which you speak...it hurts the soul and knocks the wind from your sails....
Just breathe deep and keep the communication going....It's a tall order but it can be done....take some time....
The D word hurts....especially when it seems to come from left field....
It may not seem like much but you have a lot of people here hoping for the best for you... no matter what it is

*hugs*

[teatime]

Originally Posted by M3 Mitch

Take a look at some of what Fred Reed has posted in his "Fred Columns" (Google him if you don't know him) and you'll see where I got the idea that current American culture does not value the family, but Mexican culture apparently still does. Fred is an expat American (divorced from his previous "gringa" wife[his term, not mine..]) and married now to a Mexican gal. That's not to say that there are no bad marriages in Mexico or good ones north of the border, but the general culture is different, at least if I can believe Fred.

Maybe he can be sort of an example to you, how you can get through the divorce, end up with a good relationship with your kids from the divorce.

Oh, yeah, Mexican culture values the "family" -- the men have mistresses and their wives are expected to remain oblivious and unconcerned. I lived on the Border and could share many accounts of this -- actually, I already have shared some but didn't identify the pursuers' culture. Being a blonde "gringa," I was on the receiving end of the men's advances and they were outraged when I refused them. The Mexican men are "entitled," dontcha know!

Check out the teen pregnancy rate among the Mexican people, too, and then tell me, with a straight face, that they're to be envied!

[YBF]

Originally Posted by teatime

Oh, yeah, Mexican culture values the "family" -- the men have mistresses and their wives are expected to remain oblivious and unconcerned. I lived on the Border and could share many accounts of this -- actually, I already have shared some but didn't identify the pursuers' culture. Being a blonde "gringa," I was on the receiving end of the men's advances and they were outraged when I refused them. The Mexican men are "entitled," dontcha know!

Check out the teen pregnancy rate among the Mexican people, too, and then tell me, with a straight face, that they're to be envied!

Very true....I remember in Highschool this girl was like 15 and her "fiance" was like 29 or 30. I dont think she finished out the 10th grade.

[lovesMountains]

Guys...let's keep this thread about MR.CAT and HIS situation, please

[NOEM1226]

Sorry I am so late chiming in, but I am sorry to hear this. Just being honest when I say this will be the most painful thing you have ever been through. Then one day you will see what was in store for you and know it had to happen! Oh prayers!

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by Mr.Cat

I am hanging in there. Giving this whole issue lots of thoughts. Trying for it not to affect my performance at work and just walking with my head down in defeat. This feeling shouldn't last long, I always say the best medicine for everything is time itself.

The wife and I had a little talk about this issue and we're trying to come up with some sort of understanding and amiable solution, our kids don't know anything yet. I received a devastating email from the love of my life (the wife) that I don't think I should post on here because there are a lot of you guys with good hearts wishing me good things but there are also others on here who delight themselves when bad things happen to people.

This email made burst in tears and I had to leave my job in a hurry because just it stabbed me in the heart. I don't want to lose my family, I don't want to be a wekend dad but an everyday dad for them. I love this woman to death and I will sort this thing out.

I thank you guys for your kind words and wise advise and I will keep you posted.

Breaks my heart. I'm praying for you, Gato.

[teatime]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Guys...let's keep this thread about MR.CAT and HIS situation, please

Sorry! Just thought I'd point out that the recommended "family values culture" may not be the one Mr. Cat should seek for inspiration!