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Can you take some time off of work just so you can get over the initial shock of this all? Even if its for a day or two...maybe you can go to a friends or close family member that you could talk it over with or that could motivate you to keep your head on straight? this is a time where you will need you loved ones near.
I got my vacation coming up in may. I was gonna take everybody to NYC to meet my dad and my brothers who are so eager to meet her and the kids. Now WTF am I going to tell them?
I got my vacation coming up in may. I was gonna take everybody to NYC to meet my dad and my brothers who are so eager to meet her and the kids. Now WTF am I going to tell them?
If you are close then tell them the truth if not then cancel and tell them you have some personal things going on that you need to handle and they should understand......let those close to you help you through this. You are going to need support. Well hopefully you make it thru the week and this weekend take a day and just cry and let out your emotion(privately of course). After a good long cry I feel like my brain is clearer like Im let go a weight that was too heavy and although the weight is still there I got rid of some of it by crying and letting what I could go...if it only works for a short time..for me it works and helps me figure out the next move better.
Just tell them you can't make it and start saving money.
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Originally Posted by Mr.Cat
I got my vacation coming up in may. I was gonna take everybody to NYC to meet my dad and my brothers who are so eager to meet her and the kids. Now WTF am I going to tell them?
My heart goes out to you El Gato. Sad to say this is very common, modern American culture does not value the family like the Hispanic culture does.
All I can say is keep a clear head, lawyer up and get the best break you can for yourself, the way divorce law is in general, she'll almost certainly get the kids, all of what I am writing here is not the way I want it to be, not the way it would be if I were king, but it's just the way it is.
Don't let the fact that you love her influence your decision making regarding the ugly facts of divorce.
I wish you luck in this.
When I read your post on her going home to CA, yeah, it crossed my mind that this might be a sign of bigger problems - but didn't post anything because it would have been speculation.
As to what about the May vacation - I would say use it to gather your strength and save your money.
Remember the Cat always lands on his feet. Use your head and you'll be OK.
My heart goes out to you El Gato. Sad to say this is very common, modern American culture does not value the family like the Hispanic culture does.
All I can say is keep a clear head, lawyer up and get the best break you can for yourself, the way divorce law is in general, she'll almost certainly get the kids, all of what I am writing here is not the way I want it to be, not the way it would be if I were king, but it's just the way it is.
Don't let the fact that you love her influence your decision making regarding the ugly facts of divorce.
I wish you luck in this.
When I read your post on her going home to CA, yeah, it crossed my mind that this might be a sign of bigger problems - but didn't post anything because it would have been speculation.
As to what about the May vacation - I would say use it to gather your strength and save your money.
Remember the Cat always lands on his feet. Use your head and you'll be OK.
My heart goes out to you El Gato. Sad to say this is very common, modern American culture does not value the family like the Hispanic culture does.
All I can say is keep a clear head, lawyer up and get the best break you can for yourself, the way divorce law is in general, she'll almost certainly get the kids, all of what I am writing here is not the way I want it to be, not the way it would be if I were king, but it's just the way it is.
Don't let the fact that you love her influence your decision making regarding the ugly facts of divorce.
I wish you luck in this.
When I read your post on her going home to CA, yeah, it crossed my mind that this might be a sign of bigger problems - but didn't post anything because it would have been speculation.
As to what about the May vacation - I would say use it to gather your strength and save your money.
Remember the Cat always lands on his feet. Use your head and you'll be OK.
I am so sorry gatito! My heart was broken two years ago and I did not see it coming, but time does heal. I suggest counseling ( have not read all the responses-so I apologize if this has been addressed). I sleep well at night knowing I tried everything to save the marriage, but I could not.
Time heals everything. That has been my mantra for the last two years.
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