Can Women With Small Breasts Still Be Attractive? (love, friends, feeling)

[professorsenator]

I only have two words to add to this debate: "melissa ashley" (if you dare, turn your safe search filter off and Google)

[gwynedd1]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

Since when does a woman without curves not look womanly? I dated a girl who had a body like Kiera Knightley. No curves, flat chest. She would regularly describe her body as that of an 11-year old boy. But I never thought of her as less of a woman or less feminine. In fact, I found her to be one of the most attractive women I've ever met. Please stop worrying about what other people's standards of what a woman ought to look like. Instead of dwelling on what you don't have, be proud of what you do. You said you had a bubble butt. Speaking as a guy who loves women's butts, I'm more likely to pay attention to that than how big her chest is.

Hi DennyCrane,

Its also not just about bone structure. Women have a hormone cocktail that gives them rounded muscles. Though I am not sure why all this advice about just accept who you are. She clearly is not getting the attention she would like so why not improve the odds?

[sleepy eyes 1979]

If she does not have big breast she has to have a phat booty that would hold a glass of wine with out spilling. If she has neither, "Houston we have a problem". Time to check the old adams apple.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by professorsenator

I only have two words to add to this debate: "melissa ashley" (if you dare, turn your safe search filter off and Google)

I Googled. She's not really that sexy or attractive........and her breasts have nothing to do with it.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by gwynedd1

Hi DennyCrane,

Its also not just about bone structure. Women have a hormone cocktail that gives them rounded muscles. Though I am not sure why all this advice about just accept who you are. She clearly is not getting the attention she would like so why not improve the odds?

Two reasons.

First, it shouldn't be necessary. If a guy's willing to pass you over because your chest isn't big enough, he's not worth your time. You shouldn't have to "enhance" you are just to attract attention. No man is worth the effort.

Second, I suspect this girl has issues that run much deeper than being unsatisfied with her chest. She's not being noticed by men and she's find a convenient excuse. It's like the short guy who complains that his height is being held against him when it's more likely his attitude that's turning off women. People latch onto these superficial traits as excuses because it puts the blame on the other person. Rarely does anyone want to admit that the reason they're being rejected has more to do with their personality or actions. In the case of this girl, I think people are picking up on her low self-esteem and that's a huge turn-off to most men.

[Antlered Chamataka]

Originally Posted by Sunil's Dad

I Googled. She's not really that sexy or attractive........and her breasts have nothing to do with it.

Professor spends his time quite usefully.

But I can iron my shirt on her <don't crucify me, now. Just sounding off our old high school joke>

[gwynedd1]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

Two reasons.

First, it shouldn't be necessary. If a guy's willing to pass you over because your chest isn't big enough, he's not worth your time. You shouldn't have to "enhance" you are just to attract attention. No man is worth the effort.

Hi DennyCrane,

If you wear a T-shirt and torn jeans and don't bother brushing your teeth it will not be because of the breasts. That's what I am talking about. I guess I watch too many of those nature shows when I see other animals dancing around and putting in an effort. There are many simple things that women can do to find better mates than if they acted otherwise. When a women wears a nice tasteful dress, I notice it.

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Second, I suspect this girl has issues that run much deeper than being unsatisfied with her chest. She's not being noticed by men and she's find a convenient excuse. It's like the short guy who complains that his height is being held against him when it's more likely his attitude that's turning off women. People latch onto these superficial traits as excuses because it puts the blame on the other person. Rarely does anyone want to admit that the reason they're being rejected has more to do with their personality or actions. In the case of this girl, I think people are picking up on her low self-esteem and that's a huge turn-off to most men.[/quote]

If you notice I did not focus on breasts at all. Nature gives you what it gives you. Its attitude, dress, grooming and the pond you are fishing in that are an act of volition. If she were to do those things she would also build her self esteem. I do not come from of the school of thought that sees self esteem as a feeling conjured up by the will but rather the satisfaction of good performance which is typically just hard work. If a man sat on the couch all day and felt bad about it I am not going to try and make him feel good about sitting on a couch.

[smlgrl]

Originally Posted by LizCab44

Would you go around telling your friends that they're ugly and can't be considered a woman? Of course not! But that's exactly what you're doing to yourself!

That is a good point actually...

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by gwynedd1

Hi DennyCrane,

If you wear a T-shirt and torn jeans and don't bother brushing your teeth it will not be because of the breasts. That's what I am talking about. I guess I watch too many of those nature shows when I see other animals dancing around and putting in an effort. There are many simple things that women can do to find better mates than if they acted otherwise. When a women wears a nice tasteful dress, I notice it.

If you notice I did not focus on breasts at all. Nature gives you what it gives you. Its attitude, dress, grooming and the pond you are fishing in that are an act of volition. If she were to do those things she would also build her self esteem. I do not come from of the school of thought that sees self esteem as a feeling conjured up by the will but rather the satisfaction of good performance which is typically just hard work. If a man sat on the couch all day and felt bad about it I am not going to try and make him feel good about sitting on a couch.

I had assumed the poster was already dressing in a way that was flattering to her figure. But it doesn't really matter if she walks into a room convinced that no one will find her attractive. It's self-fulfilling. If you send the message that you don't like yourself, then others won't like you either.

True confidence comes from within. I've seen women with completely flat chests walk into a bar and act like they could pick up any guy. Or an older woman who doesn't seem the slightest bit out of her league despite being surrounded by a bunch of 20something women. These women don't derive their confidence from their looks. It comes from something much deeper and that's what makes them so attractive.

[gwynedd1]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

I had assumed the poster was already dressing in a way that was flattering to her figure. But it doesn't really matter if she walks into a room convinced that no one will find her attractive. It's self-fulfilling. If you send the message that you don't like yourself, then others won't like you either.

True confidence comes from within. I've seen women with completely flat chests walk into a bar and act like they could pick up any guy. Or an older woman who doesn't seem the slightest bit out of her league despite being surrounded by a bunch of 20something women. These women don't derive their confidence from their looks. It comes from something much deeper and that's what makes them so attractive.

Hi DennyCrane,

No doubt. There is something about some women that makes them approachable. Putting on a smile instead of a scowl does a world of good.